Hi all............Just found my way back here. It's been a hell of a summer.
My husband assaulted me at our pool complex in July, with lots of witness's.

He hit me in the head with a beer bottle, then my chair went over and I hit my head on the cement.

To make a long story short. He was arrested, let out. He had his pre-trial, but didn't bother to get a lawyer or public defender, so it was post poned until this coming Tuesday.

There is an Order of Protection in place by the judge when he was arrested which is only good until this is over, plus I filed my own against him, it is good for 1 year. This isn't the first time, he has 2 prior's from when we lived back East. I got the paperwork to bring to court on those. They have my medical reports from the first time court was supposed to be.

I am going to a Woman's Center seeing a case manager, learning a lot about abusive relationships, and getting support.

I have post-concussion syndrome, headaches, dizzy, fatigue, unable to concentrate, memory loss short term, you have to look it up, can't explain it all. Been to the ER right afterwards and my hardware (plate and screws from 2 level fusion) in my c-spine looked in tact as far as an X-ray, plus they did a Cat Scan of my head.

Now I have to go back again to my PCP on Monday for stronger pain meds, and she has ordered a MRI of my HEAD and NECK.

I don't know if he will get jail time, it may be reduced jail time, and a monitering program, and some class's that are really a joke, because abusers are masters of manipulation and pass with flying colors. He has already been to class's back East for Anger mgmt that the court ordered, obiviosly it did no good, he was on probation for a year at that time.

My mom is doing well. She has a check on the other artery in Oct.
It's been one hell of a year and then this. I am trying to cope as best as I can. I will never go back to him now, they don't change, only 2% I learned.

So here I am, have to catch up with everyone.

Hugs, Nikko.....

WElcome back!!!
I am so glad that you have decided that you are going to just take care of yourself.
If I may ask...
where is he?
Has he gotten his stuff out?
I am sorry that you are having these post symptoms...has the doctor said that these will go away in time?
glad that your hardware is ok...that would have been terrible if it had been damaged.
Glad to hear that your mum is doing ok...
IT HAS BEEN a hello of a year for you!
((((HUGS)))
bizi

Hi ho Nikko!

Thank goodness you are making it through, somehow. I wish you every drop of strength the universe can muster. I wish I could blow your pain away, both emotional and physical.

I am so glad you are seeing someone and participating in support therapy.

I can't wait for all this court stuff to be over, and the legal situation more clear. You must be protected from him.

Glad your mom is doing well too. I hope she is being supportive in whatever way she can.

hugggs ~ waves ~
p.s. how are the dawgs?

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Hi, and Thanks................Yes, mostly everything of his is gone, I packed it up and put it outside for someone to pick up. He was out of here that horrible day.

All I know is he is living with a couple he works with. I don't know where. His job is temp (seasonal) so it will be over in Oct.

He has no car, so how he is getting to school, I don't know, nor do I care.
He never had a car, except when I bought him one, and then we got re-ended, and then the truck I co-signed for but he didn't keep up the payments or insurance when we were separated the 1st time and they repo'd it. He doesn't even have a checking account, because he screwed some bank.

I gave him everything! No word of a lie. He used me. Not once, but twice, am I stupid or what? He hasn't kept a real job since we moved here.
He would go in when he pleased and left when he pleased, so his checks were like a part timer, got away with it because he is a temp. On top of that they let him leave early on nights he had class's.

Here are some of the things that also happened:

1. Broke my rear view mirror in MY car.
2. When I asked about a trial separation he said he would smash everything in the house.
3. Took one of my dogs neck and said he would snap it.
4. Put a whole in the island in the kitchen, and a crack in the cabinet, because the dogs knocked over a plant. Yelled at my mom because she didn't hear the dogs do it. We are talking about a small pile of potting soil!
5. Would put me up against a wall or corner.
6. Called me 3 to 4x a day (control factor)

This is all prior to the pool episode. There is more, but you get the picture.

Hugs, Nikko

These guys are like child molesters they never are rehabilitated. I hate to be so harsh but why did you go back to him? I would move away where he couldn't find you and get counseling so you feel good about your self and never ever get involved with another one of these beasts. If you have children they have a good chance of becoming a victim or a batterer. RUN RUN RUN

i don't know what to say but i'm here. (((((( Nikko ))))))

~ waves ~