As you guys know I have been trying to deal with my fears of failure.
I have been unable to take CPR due to this fear.
I think I would like to open up a clinic but am afraid to even think about what would be required to do this...I am afraid to get out of this box that I am stuck in........ so I have been reading this wonderful book:
Feel the fear and do it anyway.
by Susan Jeffers, Ph.D.
Great book, first book that I have read in a very long time.
I highly recommend it!

Thank you for posting this Bizi.

barbara

Beth,
This looks like a good book.
I'm glad that you are finding it useful.
M.

Great post!! Thanks for sharing.................


Nikko

Quote:

If we do not consciously and consistently focus on the spiritual part of ourselves, we will never experience the kind of joy, satisfaction, safety and connectedness we are all seeking.

this is the crux for me.
beth

i agree. thank you for posting the passage, and especially this bit.

i am wishing i'd asked for that book for Christmas. that's ok. i can order it through amazon with my next allowance i think i want to read it too.

i have huge fear of failure, and am facing a change of career - never mind the getting a job part in between - i am so terrified of making a wrong move, of flopping on my face and breaking my nose... i feel too old to "do it" but too young and restless not to... you only live once... i regret not having done this 10 years ago... in 10 years, i don't want to regret not having done it NOW....

~ waves ~ the sickie

Dear Waves,
The book is excellant.
I think it would be just perfect for you.
I bet you could find it in the library it has been around for 20 years.
Or amazon might have it for just a few bucks....
I am sorry that you are plagued with fear as well.
I hear you.
My right hip has started hurting me...been 2 months now...just getting worse...am afraid to got to the doctors office, am just going to wait and see...I keep telling myself that it is arthritis. It could be something really serious....
~sigh
beth

Bizi...
I was thinking that in keeping with the thoughts of this book, why don't you read up on arthritis, do what you can on your own to see if you can get improvement and then set a date to see if that happens. Perhaps give yourself two or three weeks (probably no more). If you don't feel better...then "feel the fear and do it anyway" and simply go to the doctor. I wouldn't think twice about it....
I hope I didn't say anything out of line here. I haven't read this book in a long time. In fact, your posts have inspired me (thank you!) and I have re-ordered it used from Amazon! (I gave my old copy away a long time ago!). I think the bottom line might be that it is healthy and right to be responsible (this is a good thing) and part of responsibility is moving forward. Sometimes we have moments when this is a struggle, but in the end, pushing through these struggles and getting to the other side will make us feel better. During the struggle...just put one foot in front of the other...
Additionally, my guess is that if arthritis is paining you in both a physical way and in a psychological one (what I mean by this is that it is on your mind all the time and causing you to feel down, etc.), then it will be hard for you to full engage in the "process of life." You deserve better.
(Hugs)

p.s. Thank you also for that passage about the spiritual side of ourselves. This reminder was wonderful. Again, I do recall that this was a great book and do appreciate being reminded of this.

Thank you vowel lady,
Fear can be irrational or imagined.
It can be paralyzing.
As far as my hip goes, I thought that maybe my job was the culprit, am on my hands and knees alot but have had 2 weeks off, the pain is still there, same thing with my car, it is a honda and I have heard of a "honda hip" so did not drive for 2 weeks as well. it doesn't hurt all of the time only when I rotate it distally, like I can't put my foot on my knee. Iwonder if I had a physical therapist evaluation....that they could evaluate me, other wise I would have to see an ortho doctor?
~sigh
I don't want to address this issue, because obcessing about my physical health can get me all worked up, (manic).
I have not been stable for quite some time.
I see my tdoc this week....we have alot to talk about.
I am hoping that she can help me too with my fears.
beth

Hi Bizi!! I have that book....Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. wrote it.....it is a wonderful book!! My mom and I both suffer from anxiety and have found ourselves in some situations where others would say..."Just do it"...well..it is not quite that easy, is it.(but they do not understand)
I alsoo read through a book called "The Power of Now"...I took what I needed from that book and it helped me tremendously!! It made me recognise my feelings..ie..fear....feel them and know why I am feeling them..and accept it....very hard for me to explain...but worth checking out....it helped me to stay in the now...most of our fears come from the past or fear of the future...focusing on now and redirecting thaat focus over and over leaves little room to dwell anywhere else!
It seems like you want to explore spitituality Bizi! I think that is wonderful...Hubby and I are in AA and when we got sober, over time we both found ourselves to be very spiritual....I find it such a deeply personal thing....a life changing realization bringing joy and contentness..real happiness....I have to go time for Saffs nap...will pop back in later.
Good Luck on your journey Bizi!!!!Dorrie