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Forensics was in my house tonight as someone has tried to get inside my house with some type of instrument. They took pictures and dusted for prints. This scares me to death. I've go to find out how to get a decent apartment asp. My income does not qualify me for the one I want and I won't know if it will for 3 more weeks maybe. I have the resources to pay the rent but don't know how to approach the apartment manager with it. My lease here is not up till the end of May. My next door neighbor told the cop that I play my music loud. He said he's already heard that story before and didn't want to hear it again. My next door neighbor's friend in the neighborhood told the cop out of the blue that no one is doing anything against me. Well, why would she bring that up if she didn't know something?

I'm scared.

WEll that does sound scarey...no wonder you are upset.
I would be really shaken up as well.
I am sorry that these things are happeneing to you.
((((HUG))))
beth

Dear Barbara,

This sounds difficult. Was the cop able to reassure you in anyway? Can you have a deadbolt (or something similar) installed tomorrow?

I hope that you will be ok. Maybe you can start taking actions to get out.

M.

can you set up some little booby traps or noise makers by the windows and doors inside to make noise and a mess if someone tries again...
- plastic cups & containers , tin cans, pop cans, string

at least you'd get a warning from all the noise of things falling and it would probably scare whoever it was off too.....

ohh if you have some flour you could sprinkle some on the ground, after dark. By the windows or even the door outside if it isn't raining and if anyone steps in it - evidence on their shoes plus a foot print in the flour!

I'd leave the tv on or a light and radio on low tonite when you go to bed.

It could be just someone trying to scare you or mess with your head and not actually trying to get in ....


When hubby worked nights there was few times I sat up all night cause I heard cars driving by slowly - we're out in a rural area.
So that was scary too.

Thank you Beth, Mari, and Jo.

I have a dead bolt that the cop says will keep me safe. I can lock the deadbolt when I leave also. That is probably why the person could not get in. I do believe though that whoever did it did it to scare me. The cans by the door would make a lot of noise and is a good idea just in case. The windows have secure locks.

dear barbara,

you have got some good suggestions for the interim...

i probably don't need to say this, but i recall the discussion about mental health being the number 1 priority. it seems like this living situation however is EXTREMELY damaging to your mental health, as well as - and indeed because OF - real threats that are being continuously posed to you, and the harrassment you and any of your visitors (eg church friend on parking) receive. so my hope is that you will make getting out a priority.

as far as approaching showing how you can afford something, various documents can help... as applicable (not asking questions here)
official bank statement showing current balanace
official bank letter stating average balance over period of a year
official bank letter stating average monthly debit, over period of a year.
legal document stating award of testament and worth of estate involved.
stock/holdings account statement & dividends report.

however, the best thing to do wrt any apartment you are looking at renting, is to ask them directly how best to document your economic status. most commonly they want a copy of a paycheck since most commonly that is how the rent is paid. your case is different; you have the economic means to handle the rent but it is unrelated to a paycheck. In this case, i would directly asking the leasing manager at each place you want to rent, how best to document your economic status. each place may vary that is why i suggest you ask at each. to approach this, you start out simply stating the rent is affordable for you, why it is affordable to you, and then ask documentaion they would consider satisfactory as proof of what you just said.

i feel for you. i would not want to stay where you are living one minute longer. i don't guess there is anyone you can stay with... but also i sense you would not want to do that. you have become very independent and that is really worth something.

just don't let anyone tell you you're paranoid. being vigilant in your situation is what you need to do. i like the flour idea, heheh. makes me think of lieutenant colombo... love those old shows.

take care, Barbara. hang in there, but make finding a new place and moving into it #1 priority for the sake of mental health and physical safety.

i also hope you are able to reschedule for an appointment soon with your NP. make sure she knows you couldn't go because you were feeling too bad to make it. hopefully she will understand.



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If her lease isn't up til May??
I wonder if there is a legal way to get out of it due to the stress and maybe even hostile living environment.

I think there is a law about hostile workplaces. Seems like it should apply to your home also.

Possibly a strong letter from your Dr?
Might be something to ask about after you update at your next appt.
And copies of the police reports/records.

I don't recall if you read over your lease to see if there are ways to get out of it.
Is there a agency or the actual owner over the local manager of your complex?
You might contact them if you need to go to the next level.

Thank you all. I spoke with 2 different apartment managers today and it's a no go with getting in on my income. I'm waiting for welfare to call and for the church to call me. The authorities are aware of what is going on and advise me to stay to myself. Where I live is family owned and family run. The owner's son today told me bold face lies when I questioned him today. I am documenting everything in case I need it. I am bushed as I hardly slept last night.

Barb

I'm sending hugs first. And then I am also wondering about whether a
dog or something would help you feel safe. Yes, I realize then
you would have a animal to move with you. But if you get a doctor's
note saying its necessary then its required in all locations for them
to allow this.

I really totally understand. I wish I could be there to offer you a
place to crash a few hours to get some sleep.

Donna

Thank you Donna.

I thought about a dog believe me. I also came to the conclusion that buying a mobile home might be easier since the lot payments are way less than what an apartment would be. I would qualify to live in a mobile home before I would an apartment income wise.