God help me........I found out yesterday that my Order of Protection got returned to the court, because after several attempts to serve my husband and failed that's what they do!!!!!

They tried at his job 2x, the address we got from the court - they said he didn't live there anymore, whomever answered the door. He is supposed to be living with another couple.

The court date that his attorney postponed and we didn't know about, the server was there too.

Now what do I do???????????????????????????????????????????????? ??????


There still is an Order of Protection the judge ordered on my husband, until the pre-trial/trial case is over. Well the next court date is Oct 6th and HE HAS to be there.

But, if it is over after that, then he tries to come here, I am calling 911 ASAP.and it won't be pretty when I go into hysteric's. My mom is here and 73 with a long list of illness's he scares her too.

I am calling my new court advocate and DV case mgr on Monday to find out what I can do. This sucks. He must be thinking I am serving him with divorce papers, well God how will I ever be able to do that, if I can't even get an order of protection served, this makes me nervous.

Call him Mr. Disappearing Act, that's what he is and does.

I filled out all the papers for dept of economic security from the state for assistance, and the papers for the court for reimbursement of all the medical things. Which won't come from him, the courts put aside money for victims.

He is trying to drive me over the edge. I can't sleep, keep waking up, eating once a day, taking my meds, but still getting the headaches. I am so depressed. I can't take much more. Then to think of going to court for a 3rd time because of him, makes me sick to my stomach.

I know he is into my PC too, he is a pro at that, I have a firewall, but he goes to school for computer networking and knows back doors and all that stuff.

I don't even care, I doubt he will appear here, if he does I will know. At least I think I would know. He is such a master of manipulation and knows what buttons to push. I hate him soooooooooooooooooo much.

Sorry, I can't seem to get off this topic, but my life is a mess right now, so is my head, literally with a bruised brain and God knows what else after the neck MRI on Monday and the Brain Cat Scan.
Post concussion syndrome sucks, makes you feel like you are going crazy.

Hugs, Nikko

Oh nikko this sounds awful.
hOw do private investigators hunt down people to serve them papers?
Please try to eat a bit...maybe grazing thru out the day would be a better way to think of it.
I am sure that is not helping your headaches....
Has the doctors said when the post trauma head stuff might get better for you?
I wish you were feeeling better..I really do.
This mental anguish alone is a doozy and then add your physical symptoms...it jsut doesn't seem fair....
(((HUGS))))
bizi