:hug:Barbara,
Don't feel like you are a fool. For one thing, no one knew your heart. No one knew how much you cared for a relationship. No one knows how you are hurt now and they do not need to know.

i would not make a mention of it to them at all and they will not take notice. So some signals got crossed but I do not think that Bobby was intentionally trying to make you feel bad, stop feeling so bad about it,

For one thing, some of his life style choices are now showing his leopard spots,

THey only way they will know how hurt you are is if you tell them, or stay away on purpose.,

Hold your head high, be glad that you did not get royal messing with from this guy, He could have taken advantage of a situation but he just gave distance. He did not talk about the persons name as a way of avoidance. Now there is someone that should have felt foolish, she had everyone and the cook trying to get him to her picnic and he never returned her calls. If he picked up the phone when someone said she was getting tires it was likely to get her off his back with all the messages to call her.

Can you imagine to the lengths she went to trying to throw together a party and have him come, then he never calls her back, and no one else shows up but her one friend. She went out buying ice and making a hoo down and no one went......No wonder she did not stop in there after the tires....she was embarassed.

You do not have a Scarlet letter across your chest that you feel foolish.
You have unconditional love and caring for people and I wish only for you to be treated the same. But, life often is not like that.
Hold that head up and no more of that feeling foolish.
I bet it will be much better after a night of sleep and sorting out your real emotions.
Di

oh my...
 

DiMarie

thank you for your insights... i really think you are hitting the nails (plural) on the head, and there are many nails indeed.

Barbara,

take heed. Sure, if you need to huddle up at home for a few days it's ok... coz it's no good going out if you are too fragile to deal with these people with a pseudo-happy face (and i don't mean ecstatic).

But after a day or two to cry your eyes out, do take a trip... maybe a short one at first, and just have coffee... on your own perhaps, at your hangout. Say hello and be sociable if others are there, and if it is hard, just don't stay a long time. But when you are there don't give them reason to think your world is falling apart. Like Di said, it's all on the inside right now... safe... and that's a good place to keep it... safe. ;)

Remember you are the "good guy" in this picture, and find peace in that. As for the others, perhaps, they know no better, you know? Forgive them, for they know not what they do.

Di said many things so well i will only add one more thing..... actually, several, after what your thread title indicates:

:hug: :hug: :hug:
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:hug: :hug: :hug:

~ waves ~

I hope you have a fresh start today.
Di said it so well.
Hold your head up and be glad you didn't get in to deep with this one.
:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: :grouphug:

I agree with Di.

And I hope you are doing well.

Sending hugs.


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Donna

Thank you all. I have planned to go there with a nieghbor to grab a bite to eat this Friday.

Barbara

atta girl!
 

Now that sounds like a Plan, to me! :)

more, old-fashioned style ((( hugs )))

~ waves ~

Thank you Waves. I am feeling better and better all the time.

barbara

I feel much better today with no booze in my system and some half way decent sleep. I went to the hangout where I met Bobby today. I went at 6 a.m. when he doesn't go in there. I thought I saw Bobby's truck on the other side of the road when I was leaving. I just thought, so what. I hope to go play scrabble today at noon at the senior center. I may or may not go back into the hangout on the way home from scrabble for a bite to eat. I half way want to test myself to go into the hangout about the time Bobby would be there and act like I am okay. I feel I've got to do it for myself. After all that was my hangout also and I should not stop going in there because of Bobby or let him intimidate me.

Barbara

BArbara this is so true, good for you.
beth:hug::hug::hug:

Yeah!
That's right! :)
Not even let the thought of him intimidate you.

You sound good. Take things as they come... go in when it feels right.

Then, I really believe you will be OK. :)

:hug:

~ waves ~