Dear Bear,
Thank goodness that you are ok. But geez, this sounds scary. I'm sure that everybody was trying to take good care to get you out. And your poor husband! He must have been worried.

I'm glad that you are safe and sorry that you are hurting. Be kind to yourself. I forget how it works. Is it good to alternate with some cold and hot packs to relieve some of the pain?

I hope that you can relax over the next few days and cancel some activities so that you can recover.

Mari

oh wow....you are one tough lady....how wonderful you came out fine...I wonder if the whole thing sunk in yet. maybe you should talk about it to somebody or write more about it to us and what was going through your mind when it happened and get it all out of your system. You didn't need that kind of excitement...
Bobby

does that candy sound ever so delicious....what a lucky family you have
Bobby

I giggled at the part about your parents and focused in on the word choked..my perverse sense of humor....
I am so glad your therapist is reinforcing about your choice of husbands but the therapist doesn't sound as if she lives in the real world....if somebody is nice it is so easy to be accepting. If somebody isn't nice, forget it...why do contortions...isn't it better to know this too shall pass or am I missing something? I can feel compassion for somebody who I don't "admire" but not when I am usually having to deal with them...that is one huge step....
Bobby

Dear Morgy,
Sorry I am not clear.
I probably should stop posting about her and will anyway because, after our next appoint in early Jan, I am going to take another few month break from her.

As a hypnotherapist, she doesn't do traditional therapy with me.
About my present husband: she said that we both seemed to have found someone who is helping the other overcome deprivations and issues each had growing with up with parents. And we had similar deprivations....

So I was relieved when she didn't see it as our repeating old patterns (something I worry about even with no founding), but as finding someone who will help the other feel that those deprivations (for lack of a better work right now) are gone.

And about dealing with people: she said this at the end of the session and while I was packing to go. I understood her to mean that I don't have to like the person I might be dealing with or like being with them..... But if I am at peace about how I handle the encounter, I will feel better about myself later instead of possibly feeling worse. And yes, I think that your saying "this too shall pass" fits in with what she was saying.

I saw this as something that I mostly do but something I could reasonably improve on. I do notice that if I manage not to get upset, I can move on faster from a bad encounter. (And maybe this is common sense, but I needed her to remind me of this.)
Of course, I end up severely limiting my encounters with people....because, well, I don't feel like dealing with them in general....this works now while I am home during the holidays....and staying in the apt.

Mari

Strangely enough, Morgy, I feel ok.

I knew I no longer had control of the vehicle once my breaks locked up and I started to skid off the road, so I just let go. I cleared my mind and just left it up to my higher power.

There is one thing that is bothering me. Before my husband came and before the emt's found me....There was a man. Thick spanish accent. So kind. So worried about me.

Constantly reassuring me. Took off his coat and put it over the broken window so it wouldn't snow on me. Kept talking to me and holding my hand.

I regret not asking his name. He made everything so much less scary. I want him to know that what he did kept most of the trauma away from me. I felt protected and that I wasn't alone.

He made me believe in the kindness of people again. My mom thinks he is my angel sent to watch over me.

Oh my gosh! I am so thank ful that you are OK! It could have been so horiffic. Did they catch the other driver? Did they stop to help?

I use Epsom salt bath soaks for a good muscle pain relief. I did finally get the receipe and make several jars for others for the holiday. Tonight I am using the left over myself.

I hope you feel better soon!
Dianne

(((((Bear)))))

I am so glad that you are Ok and that you were not injured in the crash.

The wonderful man does sound like an angel. It's proof that there are still good and kind souls in this world. Is it possible that the EMT's know who he is? They may have gotten his name when they arrived at the scene.

I hope you and your family have a happy and healthy holiday.

Take care of you,
Liz

I am so glad she doesn't do traditional therapy...I can see her terms would be influenced by the type of work she does do.
Peace does still not sit right for me. When I have to encounter difficult people I really go into thinking mode and do a lot of thinking and possible acting and behave in ways that aren't my style. Two of the guys in the deli downstairs often times try to charge me more money than they should. One guy now I go into the confrontational mode. The other guy I let be. Because he didn't make the coffee the way I liked it, I just stopped buying coffee from them period. Now I am just trying to avoid using the deli period.
I will also pretend that everything is fine when it isn't if I think the situation demands it. I don't get that upset because I know why I am doing it. Again a lot of thought goes into the decision. Usually my nature is just to be spontaneous and friendly.
I AM SO GLAD YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND FOUND EACH OTHER.
bobby

I marvel at your strength and bravery. I don't think you will have pstd. You called to your higher power and let your mind clear and didn't see yourself spinning out of control. I am sure the spanish man was your golden safety net and your guardian angel. What an incredible beautiful story to be remembered the rest of your life. I was so touched by it. It almost gave me goosebumps. Wittesea gave you great advice. You could also put an ad in the paper. I don't know if it is necessary. IT HAPPENED. IT WAS REAL. YOU WERE BLESSED. If the whole thing had to happen, I think something mighty powerful has come out of it....I bet you will feel lighter on your feet lol
Bobby