hey I really like the idea of staying in a hotel for a couple of days near by, you could visit during the day for a bit but could then escape back to your room....
I know this is hard on you....
(((((HUGS))))
beth

Dear Mari
 

... sending you soothing thoughts http://www.thesmilies.com/smilies/happy/angel.gif

~ waves ~

Klonopin is good
 

Hi,
Thank you.

This morning I took Klonopin while the cable and phone guys were working in the place -- and I fell asleep on the couch.
Good nap.

Hubby is less agitated then he has been. We are sleeping here in the new place tonight.


Lots of work to do tomorrow / Friday.
Friend is coming over to help me start making sense of my boxes -- maybe take some clothes out of boxes and put stuff in closet.

M.

Hubby and I have too much stuff.
Tonight I started throwing away stuff.
Later I wrote him a list of boxes of mine to take out in the morning.
I will toss out more Friday night when friend comes.

It's a small place. I need to be comfortable.
He likes being surrounded by junk.
I'm going to toss stuff (my stuff -- can't touch his stuff) until I feel comfortable.

M.

sad
 

i am sad you feel essentially cornered into throwing out your stuff, Mari. :(

that you have to choose between stuff you were planning on keeping, and feeling comfortable / having enough space.

is the new place smaller than your previous place?

:hug:

~ waves ~

same square footage but lay out is different
 

Dear Waves,
The square footage is the same but the "new place" has smaller closets and bathrooms and slightly bigger bedrooms.

I will not miss the recent set of books. They have been in storage since three or four years ago.

I want less stuff.
Hubby wants more stuff.
But I am holding him to rules I made up a few months ago about exactly how much room he gets. He likes being surrounded by stuff in his areas -- where as stuff is not comforting to me.
And I need my areas to feel spacious, organized, beautiful, and good for working as well as resting.


M.

ahhh...
 

Ok. Thank you for explaining. i miss all my stuff which has been in storage in the garage for 5 years. so i see the time factor as kinda subjective.

But I understand that you are not forced to get rid of stuff you will miss or want. That is good. :o

~ waves ~

I'm so glad you explained too. I was starting to get a depression
about your stuff.

I was worried about you. So your explanation helped me so much.

Thanks
Donna:grouphug:

I'm trying to learn to take good care of my things.
 

Hi Donna and Waves,
I have too much stuff and I don't take good care of it -- I get too overwhelmed some times so I let junk get out of control.

So I am trying to be careful about accumulating stuff I do not want. And with regards to old stuff, I am re-evaluating some of it

I am focusing on only bringing into my home
-- things that I cherish
-- things that are beautiful
-- things that I need and use.


Today my friend went through one box of clothes with me and helped me hang up the clothes neatly and helped me decide on a few items that I don't need that I can give a way.

I don't know if I explained that well -- I guess I am working on an explanation for myself.

I have learned to take good care of my office at work.
I want to learn to take good care of myself and my home
space.

M

Sounds like it went well enough, that's great Mari! I am gla dthings are working out. How did you sleep in the new place? :D