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02-16-2012, 09:57 AM | #1 | |||
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Eva, I was directed to you thread.
My wife is about to have a double mastectomy and reconstruction. We've been talking along about how she feels and I keep trying to pull that out of her. I can't know how she feels but I can can be aware. We did have a break. I'll get a spinal cord implant about a month before her surgery and will be better able to take care of her (I hope). I understand I am dealing not only with the pain of surgery but the fear of permanent change, self image issues, and other emotions. I hope you keep blogging and let me be a bit of a fan. Maybe it will help me support my wife (and you perhaps)? Pamela is 53. She is very nervous and confesses a lot of fear. She has already had surgeries for other things so we will not worry about 'cutting' other places in her body to harvest for reconstruction. She was on the fence about this but I got a close friend of hers to help me talk her out of that. Still I made sure she was comfortable with that. Well, as comfortable as she could be. |
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"Thanks for this!" says: | eva5667faliure (09-14-2016) |
02-16-2012, 02:54 PM | #2 | |||
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my cancer was found by my self-exam i don't know about pamela for myself i always new how i was going to handle it double mastectomy done cancer was in right breast 3:00 i have 4 children all 4 were feed off me for long periods of time statistics show low % i'm thinking the test would be fine so much for statistics i am still in a mourning state i am so happy i had pictures of myself two pictures i framed both they show my right breast a reminder why i did what i did like i said to most maybe overboard having both taken first i knew before getting it second biopsy showed it infiltrated it managed to go outside the duct infecting surrounding tissue with cancer cells i did as much homework as i could but was urgent about removal it was growing in my body i needed it stopped asap pictures revel morbid incision something i did not think would be me but it was it wasn't clean cut it was deep they are not done i was relieved and sad at the same time the history alone feeding my kids bottom line it was a part of me physically they are numb the expanders are in filled too now oncologist to see if any treatment is necessary before permanent implants put in i have no nipples i think i'll opt tattoo nipple rather than reconstruct love her love her love her help her feel beautiful that they are a special part of her body but they do NOT DEFINE HER and it's your job to help her understand that then help her and do not be selfish understand implants are available bottom line they got all the cancer according to report after biopsy done to both cancer was found to be in right breast only I HAVE NO REGRETS having both removed now i just hope they will look somewhat acceptable love her love her love her listen AT her console her be grateful found early i will continue posting feel free asking me anything God is with you be well
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