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03-03-2010, 01:17 PM | #1 | ||
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My 85 year old mom with a bad heart valve and bad arthritic knees just came home from rehab...
My brother is "In Charge?" and has had to do everything twice due to his poor follow through personality. I am frustrated because I am a very thorough person and can see three weeks ahead.... I do not know where I fit in to this caregiver role because I had expected the task to be totally in my hands. Now I pushed out of the way while my mom falls through the cracks...I stepped aside last time and she almost died due to poor management of her health. I live directly next door to her and care for many animals...I can not let her fall into neglect again. How do I approach her on this problem when she seems content to rely on a son who is less concerned with her health then control of her checkbook??? |
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"Thanks for this!" says: | tamiloo (04-14-2010) |
03-06-2010, 02:16 AM | #2 | |||
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dad laughs at my cartoons and we debate the existence of Dog. he gets it.
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"Thanks for this!" says: | tamiloo (04-14-2010) |
04-14-2010, 06:45 PM | #3 | |||
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I love my Olhipie and would do anything for him to make his life easier...however I also need to let him know he is needed also. My 86 year old Mom lives with us as well so I'm doing double time.
Everyday he will ask what he can do to make my life easier? Most of the time I tease and say, "the best thing you can do is stay out the way", he knows I'm joking. Most of the time I will give him a basket of laundry to fold with me. It's easy and warm and something not to tricky...fold his socks...sometimes I give him a dust rag and have him dust all he can reach. We have a huge library so sometimes I put him in charge of making them look right! Most of the time when he asks what he can do for him...I answer...love me and be patient with me. Hope this helps...blessings on those we care so much for!!
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My best friends live in my computer.... . Suffered with back problems since birth...7 back surgeries to date, the last one being on 5/13/2015. Fibromyalgia, PTSD, Chronic Pain “Being my sweethearts full-time care partner, I have to remind myself, when some well-meaning friend or relative questions my methods or motives, that I know more than they do because I Live this life 24/7, and they only come for short visits.” Tamiloo . Gotta love my Olhipie! Dx'd RRMS 1986, SPMS 2004 . Watch my Olhipie Skiing.... . |
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"Thanks for this!" says: | tied (04-19-2010) |
09-05-2010, 01:12 AM | #4 | ||
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09-25-2010, 12:24 AM | #5 | |||
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one thing my dad could do for me and doesn't is to be less abusive with backseat driving.
he is usually wrong in his instructions as he gets older, and besides, it is a family tradition that getting lost is like exploring. when he is right he denigrates me and when he is wrong he denigrates me. how about not sweating the small stuff? i know i should be more understanding. it seems like the world he sees is not the same as mine. its hard for me to imagine his shoes. |
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