Hi all,

I am really starting to feel all kinds of mixed emotions now since last night. My dear friend Doug with the terminal cancer who is very close the end, asked me last night to marry him. Then later on after that when I left for the night he reached for my hand, pulled me close to him and kissed me on the mouth. I use to long to kiss him before now but with him so close to the end those thoughts kind of left my mind.

befuddled2

I understand your feelings,
I don't know what the point of getting married now would be?

Plus there may well be bills and expenses after all is done.
You as the wife would be responsible, I believe.
I'm not a lawyer though.
I guess you have to look at the legal as well as the emotional side of it.

My bil said some unusual things near the end, he wasn't taking any pain meds - but that could apply both ways.
Meds could cause some thoughts to be voiced as well as the terminal cancer pain.
Is he lucid most of the time?

But it is a nice gesture from him.
If he brings it up again I would say "that is very sweet and thank you". And just leave it at that.

Barbara

I still love your answer. Its just perfect.

Donna

Thank you Jo and Donna.

Jo, I have no intention of marrying Doug. He was perfectly lucid when he proposed to me. I told him we'd get married in heaven.

befuddled2

(((Barbara))) It's a perfect answer.

((((((((((( befuddled ))))))))))))))

What a beautiful response.

I'm so sorry for your pain and you both are in my thoughts and prayers.

KD