This may or may not be of any help but here goes.

I had a girlfriend years ago who had CP. She did everything I did physically even was married and had 2 babies. I was with her during her last pregnancy and recall her hanging onto a pole with both hands as her husband tried to pry her off to go to the hospital to deliver her second baby. She was a fighter. She was well into labour by the time he got her off that pole and off to the hospital, just in the nick of time.

I'll never forget that.

Yeah, Daniel is a tough cookie too. There are times that he pushes it too far but I let him give it all a try so he can push to see where his limits really are. We are going to be about 30 miles away from his mom if we get to live where we want to.

Kanna, I had a chat with my partner about this - for many years she was the boss psychologist of an organisation which supports people with CP.

Her general comment was that what you have described about the relationship between your BF and his mother is not uncommon.

She went on to say that, assuming that his physical health issues are being monitored, she knows of many adults with CP who have happy relationships with people who don't have CP, though she did suggest that you and your BF work out how to set firm relationship boundaries between him and his mother (this may not be easy).

I wish you and your BF every happiness.

Thank you so much for the expert advice! We have been talking about boundaries with both families. We are going to be living in the same region as our families but are going to try to keep a buffer of at least 10 miles from them. We have a great friend base in the small town that we are hoping to move to.

He is so excited this week because he is supposed to have lunch about a job being a consultant for handicapped adaptability for a good sized company for their online sales, as well as their website. I have changed the way he dresses to something a little more traditional, bold and well fitting. I even got him some accessories that make him look like the hip geek that he is....black slacks, dress shoes that are like comfortable and nonslip, a cobalt blue dress shirt, a black bow tie, and suspenders in blue, kelly green, and black argyle. So cute, corporate and geeky!