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01-05-2013, 09:43 PM | #11 | ||
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Ask your bf if he thinks it would be reasonable to expect a women in active labor experiencing frequent painful contractions to try to ignore the pain of each contraction and keep on going with her housework. Then ask him if while that women is actually pushing out that baby, she should "quit whining" and keep up with her daily chores.......
Then, recommend that your bf check out the McGill Pain Index: http://tuum-est.com/MEDICALJUSTICE/McGill.html If he's still being a jerk, give him my phone number. I'd LOVE to have a conversation with him about exactly what his educational background in medicine or healthcare is and why ANYONE should listen to his opinions about the dx and tx of RSD. You might want to let him know that I have suffered from RSD for over 7 years. I also have carpal tunnel in my left wrist.
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"Thanks for this!" says: | CRPSsongbird (01-08-2013), Nanc (01-08-2013) |
01-08-2013, 05:34 PM | #12 | ||
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Thanks Fin,
I'm quickly coming to the realization, that this relationship is going down in burning flames. I'm also finding new reserves or strength and determination I didn't know I had! I have no idea why but today I suddenly found myself wondering why I was putting up with such bull crap! I am 30 yrs old not 13 and it's about time I started to focus on me for a change. Whether he can grow with me doesn't really matter. Not to sound cold, but I've spent far too long catering to the needs of others....... I am woman and this is me ROARING!!! LOL |
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"Thanks for this!" says: | Nanc (01-08-2013) |
01-08-2013, 10:26 PM | #13 | |||
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Hi Emily - Fin posted what I was going to recommend, have him look at the McGill Pain Index. My husband said that it really is an eye opener. I am very fortunate to have such a supporting husband. He sees my suffering and doesn't question it. He wishes that he could take it away, he knows he can't so he does anything he can to help me out.
If your BF is so self-centered that he is only concerned with himself and his video game, then he is not worthy of your time. You need to kick him to the curb. RSD/CRPS is difficult enough to deal with, you do not need the added stress of anyone putting you down or telling you to suck it up. They are not worth the added pain the stress causes. You really need to focus on yourself right now, especially when you are in the early stages. The fact that the blocks are helping is great. Also, if he is acting like this now, what happens down the road if the RSD/CRPS progresses...you do not need to put up with that kind of crap. I have been suffering with RSD for almost 22 years and I have been married a little over 13 years. It took some of my family members quite a while to "get it", but thankfully they do. No one will fully understand it like those of us who suffer from it, but loved ones who show empathy and understanding are better to be around then those who try to tell you that you can't be in that much pain or just deal with it. Sorry, I could go on and on...but I should stop I wish you the best of luck with this... Nanc |
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01-09-2013, 06:53 PM | #14 | ||
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I can say I've been in your shoes before with having a relationship suffer because of CRPS.
I can also say I've heard various family members say they would like to see me "get better without the use of those addicting drugs" and that I should be able to pull myself up without the use of meds. I'm not going to say any simplistic answers because it is not a simple problem. Just that you are dealing with a relationship challenge, and that many couples deal with unique challenges. I hope your fiance' loves you enough to try to understand you better. And that he should probably learn about what CRPS is because it affects you so much. |
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01-10-2013, 07:57 PM | #15 | ||
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hang in there D. G. |
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01-21-2013, 11:03 PM | #16 | ||
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