I'm going home tomorrow, the new plan is I'm home for this week & next week I hope to rehab. Our lodger will tend to the pets & help me while DB is away.

I've had to push for this. They had me sign a form saying I would be in hospital for up to 35 days & that triggered all my anxieties & I realised they're not treating me, they're just controlling my medication, which as I said frankly; I don't need help with medication, I'm able to manage that very well, I'm not dependent on any drugs & the focus instead of moving me on to physio has been drug reduction.

They said to me, I'm taking less than they anticipated & began to reduce what was written up. Now because I hadn't had a Valium or Targin for 5 days they removed them. When I asked for a Valium on the weekend after a bad muscle spasm I realised what was happening & took the reins back by saying I'm discharging myself on Tuesday & you need to make arrangements for me to begin rehab. I saw 3 doctors & physio today & can see how patients fall through the cracks when there is more than 1 doctor involved, each thought the other was doing something. If I hadn't queried & pushed to go home I'd still be here come Xmas...

Good on you for standing up for yourself.

I hope that rehab works out well .

I'm home, I am glad to see my animals, my 3 dogs & 4 cats. All got a hug & gave a sniff kiss in return. I'm blessed to have these 4 legged family members.

Glad you are back home. Please be good to Pam; even if seems like it is being selfish.

Take care dear friend,

Gerry

Our marriage has imploded, he started drinking again last week, but since being home from Sydney 2 days none at all. Things have been said and done in this last week. I will try to get help for myself & we are seeing a marriage counsellor this Thursday at 5. So the drinking ironically I could deal with, drunken infidelity not so much. I’m saddened beyond belief, for all the support I’ve given, it seems instead I’ve emasculated him.

The affair? The young 21yr old girl I took in, I’ve spoken to the mother today, everything she has told us has been a lie all designed to garner DB attention, he has been taken for a fool and played like a fiddle superbly. Is he feeling sad here at home, you bet ya.

I knew I was discharging myself for a reason, I suspected something was going on, a girl just doesn’t have that much grief day day out. Will we work it out, I don’t know, I’ve got my own life to care for now. Allegedly I’ve emasculated him by doing all that I’ve done. Guess who just asked me have the animals been fed and am I arranging tea. No & no were my answers.

Pam,
I am so sorry.....

Gerry

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I’ve grappled where to post this topic, it’s painful to me, but not like the chronic pain I suffer from. It’s depressing and while I acknowledge I have depression it’s about a journey from depression to living a full life again, and nor is it a topic for alcohol, addiction and recovery. Well it is, but it’s no longer my need to document his journey backwards.

So, I’ve opted for the forum General mental health & emotional support, I hope and pray NT’rs can continue to help me and offer support as I embark on this journey to finding me. I’ve used other forums on here and have always taken comfort in knowing I could turn to NT and it’s emotional support I need right now. I need to be able to write my journey and have advice and support from the community I turn to in need. I am need of emotional support. https://www.neurotalk.org/forum85/

I have no idea how to move forward in terms of making arrangements to be sure I am financially secure. And as I keep telling my family who tell me how easy it all is. I am still supposed to be in hospital, I am unfit and cannot bend or twist. I am emotionally ill, I’m suffering with severe depression and anxiety so my mental health is also unstable. I’m trying to work from home so I can at least have some semblance of income come in, I’m struggling to work and concentrate, I’m struggling with just living. Some days I eat, others barely anything at all. I have cared for this man for 25 years, I have put his needs before mine always, I was the good wife. Now I’m just a fool, discarded when I am at my weakest.

So I’m inviting you to join me on the other forum and share your experiences and advice as I move forward. I understand if it’s too hard a topic for some of you to join me on and if you are unable to do so, please know, the advice and love you have shared with me over these last 2 years will always be treasured.