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I know I've been very distant, and I apologize for that. It's not by choice. There's just not enough of me right now, it seems, with no letup foreseen until at least a week after daughter's surgery. There's been too much going on in life to even list, and to be quite honest, I don't know if I even have the energy to type it all.
I wasn't planning to take time off for daughter's illness and surgery until the 3rd, lasting through the 11th. However, there's been so much these last two weeks that being so limited is not fair/beneficial. It's probably better for me to begin the time off now. I apologize that I've been so incredibly distant with so much going on this last bit. It's not from choice by any means. I do hope that everyone here is maintaining and y'all are in my thoughts and prayers for this next while. Again, I apologize for not being available to any meaningful degree for far too long. I do see a light at the end of this tunnel, though, and that's when daughter's surgery is over and she's recovered. Until then, I have entirely too many pulls in real life to offer more than reading posts and praying and caring. I will certainly be doing that as I can! I'll be taking these next few days to finish up some things at PC then breaking from there until the 11th as well. I will be checking into this thread for the next couple of days and should be able to read/respond to PMs and will update y'all as time permits. Please have happy and safe New Years and please know that my care and concern extend way far beyond what I've been able to show. Please keep my entire family, but mostly my daughter, in your thoughts and prayers. Much love and respect, KD
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<center> . From the caterpillar emerged ~Strong in flight, beautiful to the eyes, movement laced with grace~ The butterfly **KD** </center> Last edited by kimmydawn; 01-04-2008 at 05:06 PM. Reason: to add |
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Kim,
I feel you are going through a tuff times and have your hands full with your family matters. And I am sure everyone else feels the same. You and your family are in my prayers at all times. I will ask that you take care of yourself and not stretch out too far. May God be with you. Darlene ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
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and your daughter for this surgery.
You have an excellent crew here, and certainly you deserve a break, and time to get these personal issues settled down. Those little infants will be on a schedule in no time, and that will be a some relief. Personally I think you have terrific stamina...I certainly would have caved sooner than this ![]() Time flies you know and we will see you in no time! ![]()
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You're such a kind a giving person...you give of yourself so much, to so many and I'm just ONE of your admirers that respects you more and more. I appreciate you, truly. Oh my gosh, yes. Cheri, curious and Jo are all amazingly giving and caring and the attention they give to *everything and every detail* is second to none. They would move Heaven and earth if they could to accommodate someone in need. My little Johnathon (son of daughter having surgery) is so sweet right now! He's five months old on Weds. He's so funny, happy and just plain sweet. Oh my gosh, he's getting the cheeks that I'm having a hard time leaving alone now. ![]() My oldest daughter and her little Ethan are still working things out. Breastfeeding has not been easy for either of them, but she's worked out something where she can now have a bit more help, I think. She gone strictly to pumping and bottle feeding. He wants to nurse all the time (but she won't offer him a pacifier in between and I personally think he wants to suck). He wants to eat, then 15 mins later eat again and maybe again until he's fuller. Then he's ready again in another couple of hours to do the same hour-long thing. She was more than exhausted and we all were limited to help. Now she can feed him breast milk (btw, he never took to the breast itself and she always had to use the shield for him to even suckle), but we can help her with him too when she needs a nap or needs to do something. His daddy was so excited to have that experience. ![]() Thank you for the kind words about my stamina. I needed to read that and didn't know how much. It helps me to say, "gotta slow down for a bit" while feeling good at the same time, ya know? I'll be checking in in short spurts to check PM's and a few threads. Thank you always for your support, help and kind words. I can't tell you the impact your knowledge, but most importantly you're desire to help and share, has had on me. KD
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(((Kimmy))) I think we all understand the need to break away. Sometimes we just can't participate. Prayers for your family.
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Well, I sure do appreciate your comments Kimmy.
I feel things very deeply, but have huge problems expressing them in words. I see you understand that, but many people do not. So I appreciate your "gift" to me this morning! I agree with you about the pacifier. My son was a preemie and in the preemie nursery for 15 days. They had to feed him every 10 minutes because he vomited large quantities of food. So as they lengthened his feeding times slowly to get him ready to come home, he fussed alot. Hence the pacifier. They rolled a towel into a tube and taped the nipple to it. And they didn't give it to me to take home. How was I to know (recovering from Csection) that only one SHAPED nipple he would accept? I sent my husband out to several stores and he bought one of every style until we found the "correct" one. So I gave it to him now and then, like at the doctor's office etc. It worked wonders. Then when he was about 3 mons old, he just spit it out...wouldn't accept it anymore. And that was it. No clinging to it as a crutch or anything. It worked out really well. He was so small, I figured....anything YOU want, baby, you get! We had gone thru almost dying together, and I was not going to deny him anything. (or myself either for that matter). So share this with your daughter. Also the doctors told me that every infant has its own weakness. Some have immature nervous systems, and some have problems with feeding. It varies and just is. My son never gobbled his formula (I couldn't breastfeed because I was on 3 blood pressure drugs).. but he tended to spit up--reflux. So I just slowed him down and made the feeding times longer slower. P.S. I think babies gobble at the feeding if you wait til they are really hungry and screaming. If you watch the preceeding behaviors, before the BIG demand, you catch the appetite, before they get tense and frantic, and the gobbling and heavy sucking is less. It also has the payoff of him learning that Mom is there anyway and you don't have to scream to get her attention. I always thought my son was a reasonable baby, but I think I trained him to be that, now that I look back on it. Alot of intense baby behavior is fear/anxiety etc. Teaching a baby to calm himself is a big task, and one we should pay attention to early. Then you can have more enjoyment, and less reaction to screaming which is very tiring I think!
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![]() Thank you so much for the prayers. I'm already getting upset because I know I'm going to be leaving daughter in the hospital to bring her baby boy home and care for him. Whew, makes me nervous! Hospital staff just can't give the care now that they used to, ya know? I hope you have the MOST WONDERFUL of New Years. ![]() KD
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Hi KD,
Glad to read that your daughters surgery is over and hopefully all will continue to go well for her! I just wanted to mention something about pacifiers. All babies are born with a strong instinct to suck. They not only suck for nourishment, but also for comfort. Sucking on their hand was a part of their in utero life and it's natural for babies to want to continue that because it helps them deal with a constantly changing environment. It also helps them calm down and lets them sleep peacefully. Nook pacifiers are shaped very much like a mothers nipple and they do not cause any impairment in the natural growth of the childs mouth, teeth or jaw so long as they are not used past the age of 4 or 5. The time to start to wean a child from a pacifier or his thumb is when he has stopped breastfeeding and his main diet is solid food. At that same time, the child becomes so preoccupied with other things, that he no longer needs that suckling comfort that he did when he was a baby. New moms tend to worry too much about the future what if's........... my friend who is a long time pediatric nurse practitioner always says to her new moms.......... if you think your baby will be weaned from this by the time they are 21, what are you worried about? In other words, it's ok, it's satisfying a natural healthy urge for your baby, it's not going to hurt them and it will not last forever. All the best to you and your family!! Bryanna |
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(((Kimmy))) I am so glad the surgery is over. You are such a loving person. Your daughter is a very lucky woman to have you for a mom. Much love to you.
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Also, thank you for commenting in regards to my eldest and the difficulties she's having as well. I'm worried about her and feel that the difficulties with breastfeeding is causing for what I see as a pretty significant postpartum depression developing. Even with ALL the difficulties they're having (her and baby), she REFUSES to consider a pacifier. My aunt, who breastfed six babies and taught breastfeeding classes even recommended it as a need for him and she will not consider it. I've tried to explain so much and what I feel, based on experience, his need is and that all babies are different there. She, for instance, wouldn't take one the first time and I tried...hard. My youngest? They gave it to her in the hospital (when I didn't have plans on it at all), and she was very dependent on it from the get-go because it was a clear need even to the nurses. She's an absolutely giving, devoted, wonderful mother. She's just always had clear maps of her plans and followed them to the "T". The difficulty with a new baby is that it's not just "her plans" anymore...this wonderful little creature will add more joy than she can imagine, but throw many a wrench into her predetermined plans of outcomes. ![]() I wish so much that she would be a bit more flexible because I see her struggling so much right now. ![]() ![]() Thank you so much, again. KD
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<center> . From the caterpillar emerged ~Strong in flight, beautiful to the eyes, movement laced with grace~ The butterfly **KD** </center> Last edited by kimmydawn; 01-05-2008 at 06:00 PM. Reason: to add |
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