p.s.....There are three; count me in.....



Gerry

I hope all will go well with this weekend; but please, should you begin to feel you cannot handle it, I'm sure everyone will understand. Iit's good that you're holding off telling your Mom about this upcoming weekend.

Debi,
Not sure you realize how much you have really accomplished in so short of time. Thankfully you have a great family as well. All of you are in this together; they are grieving too. Spending time doing errands and just being there with you is healing for them as well.

Your daughter is quite wise. I'm glad she insisted you come down to eat. Good for you for obliging her request.

As always, you and your family are in my prayers.


Gerry

Dear Debi,

Thinking of you and your family often throughout the days.

Dave.

Well, it looks like you have some company here with the debit card issue!! I don't know how I'd survive without mine. I order everything I need online and have it delivered so it's a necessity for me. It's not hard to get used to it so if you ever want to get one it won't be a hard transition for you.

My husband and I both had one to the account we shared and he was forever telling me to be careful and not leave it in the ATM if I got cash out. I hardly ever used the ATM and usually got whatever cash back I needed when I bought groceries. Well, don't you know that HE left his card in the ATM one day when he was getting some cash out and the person that came up behind him took it and used it at the Kroger!! And the shoe store and the Farmer's Market!! Luckily we discovered it and called the bank and they fixed our account but he never ever reminded me to be careful with my card again!! I didn't mention it to him after that day but I know he remembered it and was mortified about it!

Make that THREE !!!

Kitty, my husband is exactly the same way....lol....he would warn me of something and then do it his self ! Of course I didn't mention it after that. I use my credit card quite a bit. Have ordered Christmas the last 2 years with it and other stuff. My husband was getting a check every 2 weeks until right before he passed so I'm going to have to get use to his ck not going in. We are pretty much cash people. Just take out what we need every 2 weeks.

I will be getting a retirement check from his work. The different in getting in now and waiting until he would be 65 is not a whole lot so I think after his birthday in Jan (it will go up 4%) I'll start taking it. That might now be a good idea either. Due to what I will draw I'll probably be losing out on not getting these 3 months of his retirement pay. So many decisions !

Anyone have an opinion on whether I should go ahead and draw now (if I do I can get my first check on Oct 1st) or wait for his birthday and the 4% increase ? I guess I should wait because the 4% increase will be there for the rest of my life.

I know I'm not suppose to make any big decisions but I've decided to take over my son's payments on his new truck. It's exactly what me and Bubba wanted and we were in the process of getting it from him when Bubba went into ICU. I can afford the payments and no more driving than I or my kids do for me it will probably last me 20+ years.

Us girls are taking it to PCB ! Whoo Hoo ! We will be so bad I just know it. Of course all I want to do is get in my floaty chair and float all over the pool or lay on the beach for hours Thank goodness for my new transport chair. That is going to make things so much easier. Guess I need to get a lock so I can lock it up like a bike before going onto the beach.

Gotta go......the RN from home health is on her way to see my mom. Need to prepare her.

Debi from Georgia

Good Morning,

Up at my usual ridiculously early hour . Don't know why I wake up so early (well, I do know.......to go to the potty! ). Once the cats hear me up that's it.......everybody is hungry and can't wait.

I'm glad you get to take the truck to PCB......that will be a good trip and I hope you get to relax and unwind. I remember I went to TN about six months after my DH passed away. I went back and forth about going right up to the day I went but I'm glad a did. It was a welcome distraction to the seemingly endless reminders that my world (and life) had changed so drastically.

How did Mom do with the visit from the nurse? I know she might take a while to get used to it but it's so much easier than having to pack up and "go" to the doctor's office.....especially for simple things that could be done at home with a quick visit from a nurse.

What's your weather like? Up here in N GA we're having cool nights and relatively cool/warm days. It's that time of year where you almost have to turn your heat on at night and your AC on during the afternoon.

I hope you're having some good days and some fun things to look forward to.

i am so sorry for your loss Debi. i am sending prayers and healing thoughts your way.

Well I have to say the guys (my son and son-in-law) took great care of my mother while we were gone. They can function without us ladies after all

It was a very nice, relaxing trip. The weather was beautiful and the gulf was calm. I was even able to get out in the water and float around on my float. We laughed and cried and told funny stories about past trips with Bubba. There were dragonflies everywhere and we all felt he had sent them to us as a message. Dolphins playing close to shore and I even saw a flounder swim by.

The hardest part was the drive down and back. I could check off every gas station/convinence store and restaurant we had ever stopped at in years past. That was sad and also coming home to no Bubba waiting for me

The future looks bleak without him by my side. I know I'll get by but will it be enough without him ? I'm scared really of what lies ahead of me. I guess I just need to put it all in God's hands. He knows best doesn't he ?

Thanks to all who took the time to read my latest update. I know I will not have to travel this road alone with all my friends here anytime I need them.

Love,

Debi

There were days when I wondered how I'd ever do it alone. Those days seemed to last forever. Then I'd have a day where I seemed to be coping well with the changes in my life. It's just getting used to a new normal. It won't happen overnight.....some days it seems like it'll never happen. But it will. When you look back over the days and months you'll realize how much stronger you've become. I think the trip to PCB was a great idea and it probably did a lot for you towards helping you heal and cope. I was scared, too, but have since gotten stronger or better able to cope or both. Sometimes you surprise yourself at the situations you can cope with and the things you can do.