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Old 12-14-2015, 08:56 AM #51
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Yesterday it's been a month without him. It's like I'm not even really getting it. How is it even possible, a month? I stills see flashes of our last week together, and the day he died. How he died, how he felt when he was gone.
I still want to hold him in my arms, just once, to touch him or his hair.
It has been a month and his smell has left my house. This is probably another weird thing, but for this seems important. The first days there was always stuff like, finding a pill he just to take, finding a hair, his smell on his bed. This is all gone now. My house is so empty, I feel so alone.
I have people over, but my house isn't the same anymore since he has left it.

Thank you, Hopeless. It makes me feel I'm not totally messed up feeling and thinking those things. It does seem to help to write a little here. Just to put my thoughts into words, it seems to do me some good.
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Having love ones on this forum who just know and are blessed
To have and say just the right thing
Fill your heart with the love
And one moment at a time
Here always a shoulder you can rest your head
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Old 12-16-2015, 03:08 PM #52
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I too have people in and out but nothing is the same and I am ALONE. I walk around the house and talk to him and touch things I KNOW he touched. I've kept his shampoo, deodorant and body spray and like to smell it and even spray some on my arm. Weird....I don't know and don't really care because it comforts me.

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Thank you, for sharing it all. I too have his shampoo, I put it away because I can't look at it. I want to smell it, but still haven't tried because I'm scared of what it will do to me.

I seem to be feeling different. I cry more, but it's not like I can explain why exactly. Just that I feel sad, hopeless, full and empty. I'm just, I don't know.
Sorry again if it doesn't make sense. I hate it's getting further away from the date he passed, because at first everyone was you know, giving me hugs and wanting to take about him, grieving with me. But they all just go on with their lives, and I understand that, but somehow it kind of hurts me.
Not that there's a time limit, but most seem to think it's easier for me now. I got people to say, it's good you still have a healthy appetite, when my loved one died, I couldn't eat and lost over 20 pounds.
It confuses me. I eat but I'm not enyoing it. When I make dinner I cry when I'm alone. How do they don't get not all sadness is visible?

I'm so scared of time. Now it's been over 5 weeks. What if I forget him? What if everyone around me forgets him? What if I stop feeling sad? What if I never stop feeling sad?

Sorry for this I don't know, nonsense, I just feel so depressed. I just really, really want to sleep and never wake up. Finally at peace. This battle is to hard for me to fight alone. I need him so much.
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Dear Ravenclaw,

Again, what you express is very normal and natural and the pain seems just too much to bear but I promise you that it WILL get better, but it may never go away. I understand everything you have expressed.

I remember not caring if I lived or not, but I was not suicidal. I just did not want to live and I know to many people that makes no sense. Only those who have had those feelings understand them. I was not going to take my life in order to join my lost loved one, but I was feeling like I would embrace dying if that were to happen. Just no desire to live. If dying would allow me to be with the one I lost, I was all for it.

And how could others just go back to their lives? Didn't my loved one mean more than that to them? What a slap in the face. Didn't they care more than that? MY life had stopped dead in its tracks. How could they just pick up where they left off. Once the funeral was over and a little time passed, it was like everything was back to normal for everyone else. NOT me.

The very first words I uttered unknowingly spilled out of my mouth when my loved one died was, "MY life is over." It wasn't anything I thought, it just came out of my mouth.

Time did not seem to be my friend at all. It wasn't making anything any better.

It has been years since the loss of which I speak happened. I STILL feel sad at times. I STILL miss my loved one. I STILL have times when I think I can't get along without the one I lost. The pain is STILL with me but it just no longer rules my life. Some where along the line, I started to have a desire to live again but it wasn't something I even realized because it happened so slowly. Today I have a STRONG desire to live.

Grieving is a process, not something you experience for a certain period of time and then you are all better. It can be a very long slow road to travel for some of us and that is OK.

You will NOT forget him but you won't always hurt to think about him. The more time that passes, the less others understand your pain because they DID go on with their lives while you are stuck in grief. YOU are the one that is alone with your grief. Yes, many of those that were there for you suddenly have disappeared. Too busy with their own lives to see how you are struggling to cope with your grief. While they may not forget your loved one, it is NOT the same for them. They did not have the same relationship with your husband as you did. They may be sad, too, but they do not feel your pain.

When you want to talk about him, please talk with us. We are here to listen. We would love to hear about the man that filled your life and now leaves the hole in your life. If others are not willing to talk with you, we are.

There is nothing I can say to make your pain and heartache more bearable. Just know that we care about you and understand your feelings.

It can be very confusing to feel so many emotions that you just feel like you may explode and we don't even understand ourselves when we are in the throes of grief.

I am glad to hear that you ARE eating now, even if you are not "enjoying" it. You need to take care of yourself even if you don't have that desire.

You may feel alone, but you are NOT alone. You have a family of friends here. I know you need more than that, but we will try to be what we can be for you.
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