Hi steash

if I may intervene and comment, having known curious for a looooong time, and also having been very moved by your contributions since you joined the NeuroTalk community....I honestly feel you may have misunderstood the words written by someone who has a deeper knowledge of pain and suffering than many may know, and one who uplifts many in this community by continuous and selfless love and care and empathy. Curious has used her very unique and treasured sense of humour here and in other places time and time again to help friends and strangers from the depths of despair and to give them her time, a (frequently practical) helping hand, and a dollop of hope and encouragement and cheer.

I really and truly think you have misunderstood, steash. But that's ok...we all do so often in life, dont we, and especially so here in cyberspace, where the written word sometimes takes on a whole new meaning than the spoken, expressive one, and where especially not knowing the other person and their personality and style of posting, one can so easily form a very mistaken impression.

You are a very valued member here steash and I do hope you will continue to get to know all of us...we have a lot we can all learn from each other.

hi steash

My father was diagnosed with lung cancer when my son was 2, and it was my biggest fear that he wouldn't remember his grandpa. My dad was able to hold on long enough for my son to remember him - he died when my son was 7. I'm glad my son remembers him because my father truly adored my son.

My grandmother died when I was 2. I have no memory of her, but I'm told she loved me very much. Our bond here on earth may have been broken by her death, but I still believe we have a connection somehow with each other. I'm close to 50 years in age, but I still feel as if she watches over me.

I lost a friend recently, and another friend told me: "Everyday a birth. Everyday a death. Each day the saddest and most joyous human experiences surround and swirl about us and we are usually untouched. It is only when we are personally touched by great suffering or great joy, that we are in touch with a commonality that we all share as humans."

You've been touched by both extremes recently.

Your youngest probably won't remember your father, but the torch has been passed on to you. Teach him what you want him to know of your father. The same goes for the little one who has yet to make an appearance here on earth. Your dad loved being a grandpa to your kids, and this new one is no exception. That kind of love is strong - so strong that even death can't break it apart. I suspect he'll continue to be grandpa to your kids, but in a Guardian Angel kind of way. His life, your life, will go on - through the eyes and hearts of your children.

kathy,
thankyou.
i have typed,backspaced,typed,backspaced, cant add any more that makes sense,
thankyou once again.



steash

In the last five years I have had my only son suicide, a beloved brother die from cancer & my darling Ma leave, to join my father, quickly & gently into that long dark night.
No one knows or understands the grief experience of others.
We are the support crew for the long journey that is grief.

I have also had the joy of my daughters marriage & shared the births of her two daughters. The most recent being Friday the 5th of October. As I handed my daughter her daughter, I couldn't help but think of those with whom I would not be able to share this wonderous experience.
I understand the confusion. In many cases overwhelming saddness is just a breath away from great happiness.

Welcome to NeuroTalk Sheryl....We also lost our only son to suicide and it's a long road back to sanity. Here is the link to our Survivors forum.

http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forumdisplay.php?f=29

We'd love to see you there also.