[MorningBroken]

I put the tea and juice in the fridge today, Mom. Two days before Thanksgiving, just as always, to get it good and chilled, just like you always said. I got the cinnomon, and the cloves, just like always. Fresh oranges to make orange wedges from, just like always.

It's been 14 years, Mom, since we last drank spiced tea together. It's been 14 years since your teacups have moved from my mantle. This year my little girl will be five. Five years old is old enough, you said when we sat at the kitchen table and talked. You'd be so proud of her mom, a blonde haired, blue eyed angle, with your stubborn streak, and a heart of gold. You were always right about everything Mom, even the little grand-daughter you never got a chance to see.

She's so excited about this tradition. Ready to be a "big kid", and she wants your cup to be the one she drinks out of. She says its the "most prettiest".

I didnt want to Mom, I really didnt. But its a tradition in the family that your Mother and your grandmother started, one you passed down to me, and I know you expected me to pass down to my daughter. But I lost something today of you mom, its almost as if you had passed away again. This feeling of loss is so strong. After 14 years, I had to wash the teacups, Mom.

I miss you.

[steash]

i have a st christopher my dad wore for almost 40 years, no one else can see it it's so worn away... but i can and in my heart thats all that matters... it makes no difference that you "washed" the cups its what you hold within yourself that makes the difference

big hugs

steash

[thav1]

Originally Posted by MorningBroken

I put the tea and juice in the fridge today, Mom. Two days before Thanksgiving, just as always, to get it good and chilled, just like you always said. I got the cinnomon, and the cloves, just like always. Fresh oranges to make orange wedges from, just like always.

It's been 14 years, Mom, since we last drank spiced tea together. It's been 14 years since your teacups have moved from my mantle. This year my little girl will be five. Five years old is old enough, you said when we sat at the kitchen table and talked. You'd be so proud of her mom, a blonde haired, blue eyed angle, with your stubborn streak, and a heart of gold. You were always right about everything Mom, even the little grand-daughter you never got a chance to see.

She's so excited about this tradition. Ready to be a "big kid", and she wants your cup to be the one she drinks out of. She says its the "most prettiest".

I didnt want to Mom, I really didnt. But its a tradition in the family that your Mother and your grandmother started, one you passed down to me, and I know you expected me to pass down to my daughter. But I lost something today of you mom, its almost as if you had passed away again. This feeling of loss is so strong. After 14 years, I had to wash the teacups, Mom.

I miss you.

It's been 17 years since I lost my mother. Your post made me cry. We never get over losing our mothers do we. God bless you.

[Tootsie]

I lost my mom in 2003 and my dad in 2001. I sure do miss them. It was a terrible time of loss. In a period of 19 mos my husband's boss died at 58 from leukemia, my neighbors four yr. old son died inexpiclitly from a yet undivulged illness (most likely meningitis or encephalitis). I'd just returned from my dad's funeral when we found out this little neighbor boy had been taken to the hospital.

MY father in law died just prior to my dad, then my mother in law and shortly there after my mother.

Grief is very hard to deal with. I felt like crying again when I read about the tea cups.

I have little left of my M&D. Most of what we have is in our hearts. There is always a day when we say "wouldn't mom or dad have loved this day" or "my it sure doesn't seem the same at the Holidays".

I have one little blue glass bird that was my moms; one of those very tiny ones that people used to love to collect. I think of it as 'mom' looking down on me and enjoying the things I celebrate and mourning my losses. I bet this might fall under crazy, but I don't care. The bird ' reminds' me of mom and I take comfort in it.

I remember how I'd hear of people who had lost their loved ones saying it is always with you.

Yes, you tuck it away and get on with life, but you don't forget.

Diane

[befuddled2]

It made me cry too. I miss my mom, been 3 years this month since she's passed.

befuddled2

[Tootsie]

Originally Posted by befuddled2

It made me cry too. I miss my mom, been 3 years this month since she's passed.

befuddled2

Yes, it is hard to deal with loss. Time does help ease the pain, but you still remember. I remember my MIL sitting at the table and if the subject would come around to her Dad then she would cry. That was long, long after he'd passed away.

I once heard a saying..

"The soul would have no rainbow, if the eyes would have no tears."
Tootsie

[Jappy]

Originally Posted by MorningBroken

I put the tea and juice in the fridge today, Mom. Two days before Thanksgiving, just as always, to get it good and chilled, just like you always said. I got the cinnomon, and the cloves, just like always. Fresh oranges to make orange wedges from, just like always.

It's been 14 years, Mom, since we last drank spiced tea together. It's been 14 years since your teacups have moved from my mantle. This year my little girl will be five. Five years old is old enough, you said when we sat at the kitchen table and talked. You'd be so proud of her mom, a blonde haired, blue eyed angle, with your stubborn streak, and a heart of gold. You were always right about everything Mom, even the little grand-daughter you never got a chance to see.

She's so excited about this tradition. Ready to be a "big kid", and she wants your cup to be the one she drinks out of. She says its the "most prettiest".

I didnt want to Mom, I really didnt. But its a tradition in the family that your Mother and your grandmother started, one you passed down to me, and I know you expected me to pass down to my daughter. But I lost something today of you mom, its almost as if you had passed away again. This feeling of loss is so strong. After 14 years, I had to wash the teacups, Mom.

I miss you.

Just came across your post. After reading it I started to cry. It
brought so many memories of family back.
I lost my mom 12 yrs. ago my dad 7 yrs. my sister 7 years my
brother 22 yrs.

Also a baby son at birth 38 yrs. The most recent heart ache I
lost my dear dear husband 2 yrs. ago.

They say time heals. It doesn't. It just puts it deeper inside,so that
we can go on. But when the memories come out, the pain, hurt is still there
just like when it first happened.

But that is still what is great about memories, they are forever.

Thanks for letting me get this out. It does help to tell others about
my loss. When I cry I do feel better after.

Joyce (also known as Jappy)