[shell]

im finding it really hard with out my dad he has been gone a yr now i try and think about the good memories but i just start cryin i feel angry because i wasnt with him when he died my stepmum told me to go home people keep tellin me it will get better but its gettin harder my dad was everything 2 me i just want my dad to still be alive i was heart brokin when me dad died my heart jst shatterd in2 a thousand pieces do u ever think i will be happy

[Abbie]

(((SHELL)))
I see you are new here... Welcome!!

I'm sorry for your loss... Dad's a special people.

Time heals Shell... It really does.

I can only imagine how you are feeling...
If you would like...tell us about your dad.
What was he like?

Please feel free to vent, scream, yell or whatever you would like.

You'll find a GREAT bunch of people here who are WONDERFUL listeners!!!


Abbie

[moose53]

Yeah, ((((((Shell))))))

It does get 'easier'; but, that takes a lot of time.

I always have 'trouble' with this time of year. My Dad's birthday was on June 20th and then Father's Day. My Dad's been gone almost 30 years now. But, still there's the dull ache sometimes. Especially this month -- with all the ads and the jealousy seeing girls with their Fathers.

What Abbie said is true. Talking about him, writing about him does help. It strengthens the memories. The memories are the heart-connection that keeps us 'sane' when we lose loved ones.

I always believed that writing memories in a blank book helps a lot. All the laughter and the love and sharing that you remember -- all in one place. Comments from other people that knew him in a different way. Pictures, too. A wonderful way to remember how blessed you were.

Hugs. (We don't have to give up the love )

Barb

[shiney sue]

I have a hard time this time of year for both my mom and dad
and my husband. So once a week i write a short menory to my
three grown children. So in the future they can read them to my
grandchilden.
Welcome and feel free to post any time you want,we will listen.
It gets better but it's still hard,to hear that now. Good look, Sue

[ghaverstick]

my father has been gone almost a year. i was with him. i do not know if it would have been better if i was not there. he died with copd. i watched almost a month as he struggled to breathe. at night i close my eyes and i not only hear him gaspping i see him. i am 40 years old. i cry myself to sleep nightly. i know your pain. i wish i had the answers you seek but i`m lost in the grief fields with you. please remember that you are not alone.