I have heard this but I do not believe it is accredited to any one person,
but many people who like you and I ... who are going through grief

the is no correct way or time to grieve...

So true.....everyone is different and grieves in their own way and in their own time.

Grief comes in many forms. It's a mixed bag.
I've been grieving these past couple of days over a loss from long long ago. Grief had a funny way of showing back up on my doorstep, even though I thought I had healed... {{{{HUGZ}}}}

My daughter's BF of a year recently broke up with her, and when she became severely depressed, I likened what she was dealing with to the recent (and sudden ) death of my close friend, Gina. In a real sense, it is a death. She has lost the person she thought he was. I think looking at it that way (and realizing that I could also understand that she could think of it that way) has helped her to begin to heal. She's no longer sad all the time, and we talk a lot more than we used to, so some good has definitely come out of it.



LIZARD

I was going through one of my old notebooks yesterday, copying down info into a proper and new one, when I ran across the name and number of a dear friend and mentor who passed away two years ago. I sat there and cried.

nah. nuttin' weird about how you are feeling. As we get older we will be dealing with loss a helluva lot more often than we used to. Some of us will get over it fast and the rest of us will always mourn - perhaps with less intensity as time goes on.

My Mother's Hospice Soc Wkr told me that there are the 3 T's of grief.

Time ~ Talk ~ Tears

I've Talked about losing Mother, cried a whole lot of Tears and am now waiting for TIME to do it's part.

Everyone deals w/grief so differently. I don't handle it well at all.

I want you all to know that your responses have been blessings to me.
Lizard - That made such perfect sense to me, thank you.

Daisymay I remember your posts on MSW about your mother. I think I am still in the tears stage...can't quite seem to get past that yet...looking forward to time doing its part as well. I sincerely hope you are doing ok....

Hugs to all of you!!