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02-14-2014, 03:43 PM | #11 | |||
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02-14-2014, 07:19 PM | #12 | ||
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Vent all you need to. My mom as I said was most difficult. As far as the driving goes, if he is a danger report him. My mom took out a center post in her driveway, her right mirror, backed into another car, and dented forward on her garage door. Well I did indeed report her. She was definitely a danger, to herself and to others. She failed the tests. That is what they make the older folks do if they are reported. I studied the book with mom, but I knew she would never pass the driving. Heck I am an older folk! If my driving ever goes down, I have told my son to take away my key!
If your family will not support medical intervention, it is ok to back away from the situation. You do not have to be around it. I would also be annoyed with all the girly talk. Good grief, he is in his nineties...he must think he is still young! Let your hubby deal with it. You stay home read a book, watch a movie. Family members can be told the truth. If he is offensive, bow out, maybe the rest of the family will figure out in time that he needs help. Not an easy situation, I know... wish I could tell you some magic thing to help. I only know I would not want to be around that behavior myself for very long. A little would go a long way. keep in touch, keep venting, I will listen. ginnie |
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"Thanks for this!" says: | moosey2me (02-14-2014) |
02-14-2014, 10:13 PM | #13 | |||
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So sorry about your Mom too..Its hard..But I guess we were never easy either growing up..lol..thank you so much..hope you are doing better too..does she act her age?If you could tell me alittle bit ,it would be great..is your dad gone?My mothere-in-law died 3 years ago this may..my parents are both gone..my dad when he was 48..in 1993..my mom 65 in 2009..it is really hard being without them..no grandparents either..have a good night..God Bless You.. |
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02-15-2014, 03:44 PM | #14 | ||
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The situation is extra hard, as he is in your home. Hard to tune that out. I think he needs his hearing checked. Most likely the TV is turned up because he can't hear. If it gets annoying, pull the plug, or the breaker to turn it off. If he acts like a child, treat him as if he were. There should be consequences for poor behavior or rudeness. Being old is no excuse for being mean or rude. Not acceptable. I still think the doctor should be involved in this.
My mom died a number of years ago. Yes she was very, very hard to manage. I took care of both my folks as they declined and passed away. I tried very hard with my mother. I attended seminars for care-giving to help me cope with my mom. When she was terminal, Hospice had a program for families for those in that roll. Best thing I ever did. Your library or Senior center near your home should have this kind of help. Sometimes bringing another "Brain" into the situation may provide some help. Look into it if you can. Being a caregiver to someone that is difficult may demand of you more than you can tolerate. Having CRPS is awful in itself. Also if this is effecting your BP, that isn't so good. That stress level needs to come down for the sake of your own health. High BP makes the CRPS worse. Try to get some council as you really do have a problem that causes stress and tears in your home. There is no shame in asking for help just for yourself, so that you can deal with it better. Sometimes we can't change another person. We can only change how we react to them. Do all you can do to lower the stress OK? Let me know if you find some agency that can help. Keep in touch and let me know how it goes. I wish your family would be more supportive of the whole situation. Husband should recognize this as being a problem. It can hurt a relationship too if things get out of control. You two need to stay close and communicate even more, while you deal with your F-in-law. Keep praying, and I will too. ginnie |
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"Thanks for this!" says: | moosey2me (02-16-2014) |
02-17-2014, 01:14 AM | #15 | |||
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02-17-2014, 08:23 AM | #16 | ||
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Hope things turn out better for you. You are doing the best you can. Write whenever you feel the need to. Keep on top of your own health, and take care of "you".
I am praying for your family daily. I am here to listen anytime. ginnie |
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