I think sometimes when people age, they think of themselves as younger. Think about how he was all his life, and look at the changes through those eyes. Some get stubborn and mean. Keep a journal of behaviors that you think might be over the top and show it to his doctor. I wish you all the best. ginnie

great idea thanks

He is worse..to the point where I have to stay away from him..he is so negative that it upsets me..I have RSD and he puts me over the top.My BP was going nutts.I still feel he has something wrong besides age..He acts like a stud muffin..He is 92 and wants to find women to marry.He says he has girlfriends,but the truth he scared them all away.he is so negative ,and too fast ,,We take care of him the most my Dear Husband gets his mail,takes it in or out,gets news paper for him too.Cleans out the snow etc..No thank you,no praise,,just his daughters are so good to him..This really hurts my husband.I was making meals and things but all he wants to do is run me down..He is very forgetful,repeats often,talks to himself a lot.This man drives me crazy..Thanks just needed to vent..He makes everyone think the worst of my Husband and I..I am so tired of this.Gossips about everyone and everything.I want to confront him,but my husband says don't..My thoughts are I do not have anything to lose..I just hate sitting back listening to all the lies and negative comments..

If he is so negative it is making you upset, it is time for husband to contact his doctors. My mother was difficult, so I have great empathy for you. Any time a family member has issues that effect all the others, I sure would vote to get the medical community involved. ginnie

What types of meds does he take ? I've had to put my 82 year old mother on valium. She just moved into an addition she built onto our home and this is our first week together......she has always been a negative person but was able to cover it up for years.....I am successful in turning her conversations in another direction but it is very exhausting. She continually talks about her meds...when she is suppose to take them....did she take them and so on.....on and on and on. I try to tell her we've already talked about it but that doesn't work either.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. At least my mother does not verbally attack anyone nor does she gossip. I ask the Good Lord daily for the wisdom and strength to help her out.

Getting him to his doctor is probably the best advise I can give you.

Please keep us posted and vent anytime you want to...we're here

Debi from Georgia

My husband will not hear of it..Getting doctors,because his brother and sisters will not back him..Get this he still drives too.Which is wrong..its like no one dares to stand up to him.I would,but my husband says stay away from him..He thinks he is always right.Talks about woman all the time.We all are tired of it..If I by chance run into him,I made up my mind,If I hear bads things again,I am going to ask him,if he is still a Christian,because the way he talks is terrible.I pray everyday all this bad behavior and negativety will stop and the good Lord will touch him..All the family just sits back and listens to him..I just can't ...When my dear mother-in-law was alive ,which past away 3 years ago this coming may,,he treated her terrible..downing her about her weight,always talking about woman and photos..She would get so upset by this.she would tell him stop,and he would be right back at it again the next day..God Bless Her..thank you so much for your words and kindness..This man makes my rsd flair..

If you can't take his behavior, leave the room and just don't talk to him or listen. Get him to the doctor. If your family doesn't support this, walk away, and just ignore him. go to another room, leave the house. He will get the point if no one listens. He should not drive in his mental state. He doesn't sound stable enough to..just my opinion. If he is like this in public he would be considered to be" not stable." I don't know if his Christian background would help at this point. I really do think his doctor should be involved. I am so sorry you have a difficult family member. I had issues with my mother that were hard to put up with as well, so I do understand. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. ginnie

Ginnie,thank you..I know you are right.He is unstable.i spoke to my husband about this again..he said no one in the family will support that..I told him I will not put up with this behavior any more.What do I have to lose.I want to report him to DMV..before something bad happens.I feel he has lost his mind.He cannot remember if he spoke to anyone that day.He writes it down and has to look it up.He is crazy about woman..When he was in the hospital about 3 months ago these so called nurses,lead him to believe that they wanted him..they kissed him...then one of them gave there phone number to him..one of them were in there 30s and the other in there 60s..all he talks about how they want him.THey wanted more than a really nice kiss..And so does he..I think I should report these nurses....he is out of control.he has nothing good to say about my husband or I...but then all bees and honey to our faces..makes me so mad...thanks for letting me vent..

Vent all you need to. My mom as I said was most difficult. As far as the driving goes, if he is a danger report him. My mom took out a center post in her driveway, her right mirror, backed into another car, and dented forward on her garage door. Well I did indeed report her. She was definitely a danger, to herself and to others. She failed the tests. That is what they make the older folks do if they are reported. I studied the book with mom, but I knew she would never pass the driving. Heck I am an older folk! If my driving ever goes down, I have told my son to take away my key!
If your family will not support medical intervention, it is ok to back away from the situation. You do not have to be around it. I would also be annoyed with all the girly talk. Good grief, he is in his nineties...he must think he is still young! Let your hubby deal with it. You stay home read a book, watch a movie. Family members can be told the truth. If he is offensive, bow out, maybe the rest of the family will figure out in time that he needs help.
Not an easy situation, I know... wish I could tell you some magic thing to help. I only know I would not want to be around that behavior myself for very long. A little would go a long way. keep in touch, keep venting, I will listen. ginnie