Lately I have been dealing with past trauma and trying to work past them again. Then today I was walking with my younger sister and the teacher that we got fired a while back we ran into her and she stopped us to talk to us. She wants to be friends with us but I'm not sure I can do that again. She used my sister and me in inappropriate ways that she shouldn't have used us. I just don't know what to tell her and it's bothering me. I am feeling depressed and so scared that I just don't know what to do about it. Any one have any ideas?
Wish

((((((Wish)))))),



I don't know your history or what kinds of things you're still trying to sort out. I've got a pretty good idea, though.

The ONE THING that I've learned through all my years of pain and loss and struggles is that you HAVE TO -- HAVE TO -- take care of your SELF.

If you learn nothing at all through struggling through this life but that one thing -- you will have learned the most important lesson.

If someone hurt you before, you can assume that they will do it again. Either in the same way or in a different way.

If you think that there is a possibility that this person can learn from his/her mistakes, then, by all means, start a new relationship with this person.

You WILL NOT start a new relationship at the same point where you left off the old relationship.

If you think this person has not learned anything -- then, you simply say that there's been too much pain and hurt and you are not going to put yourself in that position again.

It's that simple, Wish, SELF has to be protected -- ALWAYS. You have inner feelings and instincts about this person. Pay attention to them. They will guide you to where your next steps need to go.

As my son is fond of saying to me -- way too often -- just 'cause you make a decision now doesn't mean that it has to be a "permanent" decision. If the situation and circumstances change, you can look at your options at some point in the future.

Trust your instincts, Wish. And allow yourself the quiet, meditative time TO HEAR what your instincts are telling you.

BIG HUGS.

Barb

I've been praying on this since she had asked me to be her friend again. I just don't know what the answer is yet. I hope that I can reach it soon. I am still feeling pretty down though. I just wish I could cry.
Wish

Wish

not knowing the whole story it is hard to comment. but I would urge caution tho

whatever this teacher did, if it was enough for them to be fired over then it sounds serious...........

so do be careful. We can forgive people, but we dont have to open ourselves up for more hurt from them!

((((((Wish)))))),

After my brother died -- a long-long time ago -- I just could not cry.

I was freezing myself so that I wouldn't feel the pain. I couldn't FEEL anything.

A wonderful young therapist sat with me on the floor in a very quiet, darkened room and taught me something. He taught me how to BREATHE DEEPLY. How to fill my beautiful pink lungs with AIR -- feel them filling. G-d gave you those beautiful, pink lungs TO USE ... to fill with air ... to celebrate the fact that you are alive ... to feel the joy in being alive.

Try it, sugar. You'll cry. The answer will come to you. Don't try to force yourself to make a decision -- just let the decision come to you in the quiet spaces.

BIG HUGS (and love).

Barb

I am still feeling sad today but I will live. I have been being thankful for being alive and for having my friends. Any way, I have to go to classes. Hopefully this will help.
Wish