today
today i have music on as i write
somethng i never did before last week i contacted my oldest friend Maureen Yugoslavian we pick up where we left off today i called a lover who i also know as long as Maureen we went to grammar school and high school together he wanted to know what was the honor of the call as he has no clue it my last intimate time with him or anyone he has no clue our last time together I say this not to be vulgar in anyway we were watching SNL though we weren't intimate on that night he kissed my right breast kissed me good night let himself out i had no clue of my lump yet he has no clue how memorable everytime i look at the beautiful picture of myself and right breast so i never would forget brings back memories when i called him and told him about having them both removed this man called me night before surgery I'm glad I called and he answered for if just for one moment in time he then called the next day called to see how i was that was a bit more than two years glad i did we have a long history just because of time and it's been in bits and pieces through the years divorced a father of a son as much as i don't want to feel i'm glad i called we will be together in the future so he would like that and yes just because at a very tough time as a woman him knowing of my body called the man called him alone and he doesn't know how it has affected me in a very good way i'm glad i called and he will touch me and bring me back in time if just for another moment in time he seemed happy and i did too this i would very much like to FEEL me |
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My Sister phoned me today. I told her about my Depressive Personality Disorder - the first person in the outside World I have confided in. We talked about our childhoods, the lack of Love expressed. We talked about the hole inside me. She understood, and in understanding made me feel that bit lighter. A good day for both of us. I said there was someone Special waiting for you. Keep playing your music. Dave. |
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Eva, That's great!! Yesterday's (2/16) post to you (thread: making a choice every day) I had written "I wish you love". Also, mentioned a friend, or neighbor, etc.. Glad you were met with memorable responses. Gerry |
My job
I did what I never imagined I could
and respond as I did A comment remembered "That's your job you are the mother" REALLY REALLY It never stops Until I shut them out WHY me |
evening has come
and all i would like to
just sleep i can't i have to take care of Eva she is so on top of what's going on no option goodnight me |
to wake from my pain
and to be in a depressive state
just blows i was thinking of my maternal grandmother i remember her only meeting her twice as children nine and thirteen taking vacation to go to Hungary after having a intense conversation with my sixteen year old it was she who who had me thinking of my grandmother to describe her is sad always in the kitchen a separate house adjacent to the rest of the house ya know country girl dirt roads chicken coups and now as an adult could see in her eyes the sadness a very introverted understandably as it was time of WW 2 and how the German soldiers would barge into the home order my grandmother to cook for them and she did so the story goes and my grandfather helpless just had to watch and pour the drink wine an in remembering her and my conversation keep a mental picture and began to wonder was she troubled with depression it be my assessment to try and understand me |
Inside out outside in
It shouldn't matter
I have been in a severe depressive state My pain is growing in spreading My hands feet all in the 5/6-6/7 area My neck my shoulders my body all be riddled in one way or another It takes so much energy from this brain that is always a problem Depressed like never before Me |
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New pains, increased pains, affect our Depression big time. On top of this you have your family and your poor dog. A slide in Mood is not surprising. I will not tell you to cheer up, but you can try to look at the positives. Little Eva is your Light - use that. Your minor victory clearing your useless Insurance. Do as I do and watch Comedies on tv. They will not change Moods, but a laugh or chuckle can bring a little relief, no matter how fleeting. I have never been one for making lists, I find them pointless, depressing exercises, but you write well - with feeling. Keep expressing yourself here and know your Friends are supporting you. Dave. |
Eva,
Unfortunately replaying all the sadness and looking back to bring to light what sorrows to a depth that can bring one's depression even deeper.
Dave has a point when he mentions what might lift his spirits us. For each, it is different; but I try not to let myself go into the dispairing thoughts; but thoughts that might be more uplifting. Dwelling in sorrow; only too often leads to more sorrow and depression. Dearest Eva, I pray you can look at the good you have done and things that delight you; especially one who sings "You are my sunshine". Gerry |
Dear Gerry dear Dave
I have not said anything either I feel a lump like mass under my right arm pit The glands just bellow my ears where both upperers and lowers are held together It is swollen both sides am I nervous You bet My cancer I found in the right breast I don't talk about it All I say is something is not right To say stress has zero to do with my failing health If my hair could hurt it would IT'S JUST ALL OVER just had my shrink session Wants to start me on Effexor Please anybody on this medicine Kindly share what and how it affected you I have been put on several The trouble is my cancer drug was changed again back on the first one tamoxifen Femera added to the pain in my hands and feet To be known this be a side effect many complain about painful hands I had the stupid thaught my hands are useless already how much worse can my hands feel forget a scale of happy to sad faces indescribable So When on Femera I now had to also get off of Zoloft Bad withdrawals Even with careful proper weaning from it Sweating in the sleep cycle Must change clothes sometimes twice in the sleep hours Everything I wear is cotton already so i have had to walk away to do things for Eva Corissa is at her program she is slooooooooooooooooowly getting it i will be awaiting a call for a conference father should be there we will see we shall see till then i did all i could i hate utterly HATE how i feel being impeccable with my words for you both Jesus bestow upon my wonderful friends who remind me of my "sunshine" from my innocent grandchild may you find Joy from her natural giving of Love me |
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EVA, HAVE YOU MADE YOUR APPOINTMENT WITH GYNY?? HE NEEDS TO CHECK LUMP. NOT SURE IF YOU STILL GET MAMOGRAMS; BUT AS YOU ALREADY KNOW, LUMPS DO NEED TO BE LOOKED INTO. PLEASE DO NOT WAIT. Gerry |
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it's hard to get around with the snow and parking being a difficult thing to do and i do not want my car towed and it cost a fortune to use a cab Gerry the hurt doesn't stop it just doesn't stop and when i tell my sister she cries please don't leave us but in this woman life it never comes without a painful fight never i would love to have my life to be told it isn't fair yes i still get mammograms that will be coming right behind will be using my medicare red white and blue card my mammo done in local hospital i will gt on it love me |
Dear Eve,
I repeat Gerry, get these lumps checked. I waited 3 years out of fear and self-denial. It is all the harder when this Blight messes with our meds, more when our heart messes with the Chemo that can be given. I am only clear 17 months, every bleed, every itch, every 'wrong' feeling brings my mind to the worst. That is what your Doctor is for, to make sure this is nothing and to get you on the right meds. Do not torture your mind waiting. You need to be well to brighten our days with talk of good times, of little Eva's development. Much love, Dave. |
FOREVER EVER YOUNG
LOVE me |
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EVA, NOW THAT'S A GOOD ATTITUDE; SEE THE GYNY ASAP. PLESssssseee, YOU ALSO HAD ANOTHER ISSUE YOU NEEDED TO ADRESSS WITH THE GYNY AS WELL. Gerry |
hurting
my heavy heart
loss of my job just a huge part of my identity robbed as a child as a young adult now as i entering my mid fifties with a brain that feels thirty five funky but true sad because so much wasted time as i doted over my children raised them to the best of my ability and did a awesome job they just don't like me sad me |
Dear Eva,
Children are cruel and heartless like that. Of my Step Children, one is distant and uncaring, one is the nastiest, most selfish person to her Mother and myself, the third is sweet and caring. They were all brought up the same by both of us. Ignore the spite, they need you more than you need them - try turning your back on one of them once when they come, pleading. As to your brain being 35, mine is 23 in some things. I crave humour, have it on all the time. It doesn't make me happy, just takes the edge off the darkness. Comedy is a pleasant noise to block out thoughts. Live in your younger brain. Always remember, whatever happens there, you are loved and appreciated here. Dave. |
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Eva, Sometimes we don't realized the repetition of the past can really be a turn off to our children. After a while they just don't want to hear it or deal with it any longer. My mother, whom I loved very much, just could not let go of the past and never let me forget what she went thru. I ached for the relationship we could have had. Sad. I have to be careful myself not to go there with my children. Dave mentioned comedy or uplifting thoughts. This can be good for us as well as those around us. Sending love & prayers,:hug: Gerry |
comfort when need most
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your beautiful the words you put together for me is so on the money i have very wonderful beautiful hearten people of such overwhelming stories those of us that suffer pain that brings me to those dark places it's one thing not to have a partner in life but like yourself it hurts to be touched no more hugs my granddaughter is the one that expresses empathy in such a meaningful way they have become cruel but the cruel mouth off from my eldest the one who had brain surgery and the ten years of depression as we went through her epilepsy difficulties my job to be there for her all my vacations days my personal sick days given to her over the ten years her high school sweetheart exhibits early his lack of work desires hanging on my daughters skirt and her SS benefits they are living with the in laws apartment in his room as a kid with my sick dog i listened i washed her body i changed her bed sheets giving her three fitted hospital sheets so she wouldn't sweat from the plastic hospital mattress the nurses loved coming in the room it smelled so fresh 19 days i slept in a chair there were other hospital stays where if i weren't there the two seizures while she was going to the bathroom and because her seizures are all the same as far as the body contorting her one leg would posture knee trying to reach chin immediate fall sure it was a job i had to help my child she was over the legal age but she wanted mommy and mommy was there i made it happen that you would have someone with you at all times oh what did she blurt out after her last Skyline session "it's your job you wanted to be a mother" this is true Dave you have managed to help me through a difficult day it's her birthday a tradition i started as they came into this world i honored and would give them the recognition by calling them each year the time they entered the world today my child took that away from me yes it was my decision not to pick up the phone yet i'm told i shouldn't have had children like i putting a note in their lunch box everyday all through their lives they always had the comfort of knowing i'll always be there i need to be a little selfish i am responsible for my happiness and having words from loved ones here is a good boost a great boost for your comforting words that wrap me like that big flannel shirt my God wears sending you a gentle :hug: and a :) day for you and your life love and to all a:grouphug: me |
Eva,
If possible, might be of help if you were able to let go of dwelling what most of us do as a matter of being a responsible parent without need to go back into all we have done for them.
It does not occur to me to look back on what I have done for my children; what I do often concentrate on tho is caring about their health, jobs, etc. What I have done for them just does not come up. I brought them into this world. The love and care for them is automatic. Just afraid all this darkens the depression you are going thru causing it to become even deeper. I only mention all this because I care about you and your family. Sometimes we need to do our best to control the dwelling on all that sorrows. Gerry |
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you are absolutely correct it is not the in your face and don't you ever forget it this is at a time i could have been selfish and she wanted me there i did it with nothing in return and still listen to her what is brought up are situations that have occurred in their adult i am not speaking of the necessary responsibilities of preventative health care that's a given some will call it enabling i definitely rather not have any of what i am going through happen and it is i have to learn how to say NO and not let them hurt me my child in her mid thirties and she NEEDS her eyes checked along with that eye wear and nothing in return is there does come a time when taking from me has stopped my eldest asked for help purchasing christmas gifts with the promise of them her to pay it off monthly four computer tablets and a previous balance hers was paying monthly payments and her reason did not like being asked how could she have left a mess as she did using my apartment as a venue for her to have her poetry features happen and the response was go blank yourself and has no intention to pay the dell account all hers left for me to pay is the first for her so no i don't like having to remind them of their obligations this is all present happenings undeserving of it all me |
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Eva, I am sorry you have allowed these purchases, etc. to take place. They are adults. All you mention has nothing to do with what my post had intended. I should not have made an attempt at something I am not qualified to comment on. Wishing you well. Gerry |
to a beautiful lady
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on your input may i have misunderstood your message i may not have explained myself to be understood as confusion is a huge part of the puzzle trying to figure out how there is no understanding of the pain and sorrow my adult children are adding to this sick person i very much want to understand your message please i am open to all that one has to offer in suggestions knowing in the end i will do what i feel is most important and you most certainly qualify so happy to hear you can still be active in cooking, laundry and if memory serves me right you love gardening and dabble on an easel and paint i want to try and dabble with pastels and chalk along with Eva at my side on her easel Corissa is doing much better going to the program she has been going to for six months now no input from father when a once a month mandatory session between the three of us and therapist to date zero i make it my business to be available for my granddaughter and daughter these two are like SISTERS it's beautiful trying to get Corissa to study for the written so she can get her permit and i can be the licensed driver as she takes me shopping to the doctors and get the experience so i can count on her and the car won't just sit in a parked position she could do errands she is apprehensive about driving i expressed she would be doing herself a disservice i hope to hear from you again you have been very instrumental in my life i would understand otherwise because i care toooooooo much love me |
Dearest Eva,
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Eva, I, myself, do not do well in explaining myself; sometimes better to leave certain areas alone. Glad to learn of some of the upside of things; especially Corissa getting a permit to drive. When she gets her license, she will be most helpful for you to get around. Please let her know "I care very much about her". Somehow those few words spoken with her made a close connection between us. Yes, I once loved painting. Self taught. I Have not painted in over ten years. The easel stands idle, along with the table full of paints. Wrists, hands, fingers, and the ability to stand with the painful spine, legs and burning feet do not allow for me to even attempt at painting. I often think about it though. I do have the painting of The Divine Mercy in my living room. I had sent a copy to you several years ago. Am able to do very little gardening; but do manage to put some solar lighted items decorating the walk way. Also have a lighted wreath for each season on the front door. It's just my husband and myself so spreading laundry over a few days works pretty well. Once enjoyed cooking. Now; it's the quickest and easiest to make meal. Luckily, my husband is not a fussy eater. We all do the best to work with our handicaps learning new and different ways to accomplish the necessities. The best advice I can give for both of us is to not dwell on the things that sadden us. Try to look for what can bring us some joy; whether movies, music and of course, loved ones. Because I care,:hug: Gerry |
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Blessed is what it is Love Me |
can't escape "it"
i felt it coming on yesterday
the knot in my stomach the lump in my throat the feeling of doom taking over my body and locks me in a state i loath bottom line ALL the things i won't let go of true FREEDOM is not in my future if i continue to dwell BUT WHAT IS NOT UNDERSTOOD i do not want to FEEL like this anymore no matter what ever "it" wants "it" wins my sadness is the thing that is tearing me apart i physically feel "it" why does it want me why can't i just hold on to the positive and wait for a miracle it not hurt anymore and i not be a burden to my family turns out to be a joke no help offered anymore as a way to be hurtful only i will in the end do it myself my son called with some comfort he and i have so much healing to do but he called out of the blue to see how i am i did not want to start Effexor still on the fence about it i started it three weeks ago on capsule am to graduate to two capsules a day i am reluctant to start the second one i wish i never started do not want to take it so want to kick myself as i read a post just by chance i don't think so anywho just want it out until my cancer meds are stopped and that isn't anytime soon am i nuts i don't think so i know me me |
Woke
Still in that mood
To have gotten up to go to bathroom Cannot return to sleep I must get the eyes checked also Doctors doctors doctors I must get the strength And get with the program The thought of laying on my back I cringe already Will have my daughter see him also It is mandatory She waits for mommy to arrange everything The lessons you hope and pray they adopt Still in that funk Me |
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Eva, Is there the possibility of you being able to go for even just a little walk outside?. When "it" tries to grab you and won't let go sometimes just getting your coat on and go out; even just for a very short time might break the cycle. I had some pretty nasty issues with an "it" that would take hold. I finally learned to stop whatever I was doing; and leave the house to get outside for a little while. Not always; but sometimes it did help the "it" to go away and another chance to try to get back to the positive. Wishing you well, Gerry |
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I will try as the weather gets better You take care I pray you aren't near by any darkness And the sun can shine for You Love Me |
Still has a hold
Oh dear Brother
Please strip me of this sadness Hold me tight Never let me go I don't want to do it anymore Drowning with my eyes open Me |
Dear Eva,
You may be fumbling Through the darkness But He is your Light. You may feel like You are drowning But We are your Liferaft. Dave. |
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hope you are doing well thank you in humbled abundance after today i just don't get it the only time i am out is when i go to my doctors yesterday was just unbelievable really nobody hurt just the car don't know where to shove it anymore don't want to shove don't want it sure need that life raft may we some day be relieved of our pains i believe in miracles thank you friend me |
Nothing left
This depression has me locked up
all by myself There is no one No one God why do I feel like this Brother what must your pain have been like I'm so weak so embarrassed So alone so sad all ending with pain of every kind Me |
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Eva, I pray you will soon have someone to share your experiences, secrets, etc. with. This would be a "best friend". Is there someone in your building that you might like to share a cup of coffee with; possibly getting to know better? So sorry you continue to endure this sadness and depression alone. Glad at least you have NT to know you are cared about very much. Gerry |
wondering
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it is here like in my fellowship do i find the understanding of pain not the emotional pain but the everyday physical pain the blindness blows me away my mother oh how disappointing my children how disappointing and my granddaughter Will be returned to her sober parent i have nobody in this building other than those who want my services nosy bodies it is important that i do have one who i can invite and have it will take time time slipping away i love you i care about you is it over my life over me |
No No No ! Your LIFE is not over Dear Eva
Oh sweet Lady you have so much Love within yourself. Please reach down deep inside and find it again.
At one point you were asking about suggestions on meds....have you ever tried Paxil ? I had to increase from 20 mg a day to 40 a day when all this SFN started but it has really helped my mood. You have been through so many struggles in your life but you have so much more life to live. I pray your 'someone' comes to you. All our love to you sweet Lady. Debi in Georgia |
Dearest Eva,
The causes are unjust, The physical pain Excruciating The emotional pain Intolerable. But… Family has need Of You We have love For You He has purpose In Your Life. Dave. |
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my children by my children i am in argument with my seventeen year old daughter who i have done nothing for but be there for her in eveyrway why don't i have to live in a filthy house because she is just so lazy no of the turd is mine can't get anyone of them to shop for food eat what's there this one i not gong through it none of the **** is mine i live in my blanking room i have no blanking life they hate and hate and now my daughter says just leave me alone just leave me alone i don't want to talk to nobody thats what this lady just was told leave her alone oh i sorry did not have hundreds to give her just like her father did my card meant crap crap; crap what the hell i i living for what the hell i did not do a blanking thing to this child to **** on me like such in ant normal household one tidies up after one self not the case here selfish unbelievably selfish if there were enough cold water left to drink it wouldn't be shared she would drink it all there is no more tolerance none of them like me so what the hell i have to be on constant alert whats going to happen next IT'S ME THERE IS NO OTHER EXPLANATION IT'S ME me |
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apologizing
but what else
i'm sorry mommy i didn't mean it feeling badly for her oh the words and sounds echo i love you mommy how about like do you like me this is something i hope to have earned this just isn't okay to be told i love to argue with you mom i'm lost me |
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