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05-20-2017, 09:44 AM | #1 | ||
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Hi Eva. I just wanted you to know that I was thinking of you and sending heartfelt hugs your way.
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05-20-2017, 01:49 PM | #2 | |||
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When I need it the most Blessed am I with wonderful Lovely people here Warm ones Me
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05-21-2017, 04:53 PM | #3 | |||
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Two days MIA
calls I'm on my way home Walk on say do you want to see my tattoo I said No Mr
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05-24-2017, 07:55 AM | #4 | |||
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Never sugar coating it
Seeing for themselves true to the way things really were They say all the time I didn't know we were poor mom I did my job After divorce Back to work Nights to the very end of my working career Never sitting on my buttocks Always on the move Excercising back to school trying to go into the medical field How far from that was I Vowing never to work in city hall And where did I put 12 1/2 year and it mean nothing Nothing Like that over night When I turned forty My eyes first thing that changed on the downhill slide Between Corissa and her kidney troubles And OMG the hospital stays and doctors For three years of her life to have that wonder will she make it She was 3 1/2 months old And when she took off for a few days coming home with i he only kidney infection Never even thought yo take her temp That I expected A thermometer so important in my lifetime Not to be taken lightly Going off topic I just learned The above tenant did what I said I would never do and that was take her to court as I had management handle it And the charge even though dropped needs to be expunged I am mortified Just beside myself So with my body that I have no control over as it is breaking down as it is And doctors have no clue what's going on with veins in my hands or feet and why they are behaving the way they are I was taken off tamoxifen after 5 years The veins don't swell as often and no bruises so there may be a connection to the happenings of my feet and hands in connection with the cancer medicine I see my oncologist next week So looking forward to seeing the pain specialist for a torodol shot It lasts me about two weeks Anything to relieve the constant pain Do I go into depression mode No Do I wonder if something changed with me Most certainly Do I have to put up with the I know better attitude And them not to even try a be receptive to what I have to offer A hard thing to step back from I will not let my children hurt me anymore Because the separations alone is tough enough I wish them happiness in whatever they do For them to love what they do To love who they are To know they matter My walls are up again My father really did a number on me Taught me how to build them up quickly And just as I'm almost done I remember by doing so I shut out Jesus Christ My constant My everything Heavenly Fatherto hold me up as I remember who is in charge of it all To not want to feel is my life and because I have to be vigilant and not let myself be victimized or let it consume me I must do Now to do homework on how to handle this Numb Me
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06-07-2017, 08:49 AM | #5 | |||
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I don't want to feel anything
Let me turn it over Trying to erase what was said this morning Letting it go Not to feel their shortcomings I have myself to take care of I have to take care of myself I am good for nothing if I don't let it go It cuts me up And I don't deserve the way my children manipulate me Shame on me I must stop and start my day over again for the third time After hearing from my middle sister Someone who calls when she is overwhelmed and needs reasoning she turns to me And I say to myself again Eva let it go Letting it go We shall see We shall see How this works for today I will be selfish and take care of this person Turn to Heavenly Father and just do One step at a time Me
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06-07-2017, 04:32 PM | #6 | |||
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Dear Eva, you are such a strong woman, despite our infirmities we, you and me, just crack on. There is a reason others turn to us in their time of need, and those that expect us to continue to be "just us"! We feel this feeling inside and it builds as those around us blithely carry on in life treating us we once were. The difference we are noticing is not their behaviour, it is ours. They have not changed their ways, they have always been selfish & manipulative but we were so busy being consumed with getting on with life we didn't take time out of our day to let them know their behaviour is unacceptable. So here we are, now in our prime, and we've been dealt a cruddy hand. Our bodies are failing, our minds are not. Now we see with open eyes and hear loud and clear the shortcomings we (in love) kindly overlooked.
It will not, and is not selfish to look after yourself first. Think of it as a kindness, better they learn now to look after themselves and each other while we are still around to give them kind yet firm guidance. Yes, you may have said hurtful words, but they are just words, not swords, it seems those around us have very thick skins, I doubt our words pierce them, it is only us who suffer with guilt after, they have already moved on. I'm trying a new tack. For everything anyone does for me, I use simple words. Thank you for your kindness. How thoughtful of you. I've stopped doing the small things which assembled building blocks & stairways to anger in my mind. I don't get up at 4 and feed the dogs, the alarm goes off and I hit snooze, twice sometimes three. I haven't fed the dogs for a week. But they are being fed, to begin with there was a duplicate snooze button going off. Now it's just my own. That warm body lying beside me is up and out of the bed as soon as the alarm goes off. Needs must - my needs!! So dear Eva, be selfish and know it's not selfishness but a kindness after all. The old saying you have to be cruel to be kind, comes to mind. Only we are not cruel, just selfless.
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I can still remember what life was like before pain became my life long companion Last edited by PamelaJune; 06-08-2017 at 01:18 AM. |
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06-07-2017, 05:04 PM | #7 | |||
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I need you to know I have taught myself Not to respond especially with any horrible words In return They cannot say o went there I do however say things and do not follow through Giving once again the benifit to a possible change And I then tell them I need you to remove yourself from my life right now I am being pulled down with the negativeness that lingers on for way to long What I have done was block them Not allowing them to her me or my grandchild to hurt I will share with you My granddaughter returned home Saturday after the father said horrible things to her Crying at my door before running into my arms She blurts out Daddy said I'm the most boring child on the whole wide world I was crushed Brought me back to when o was a little girl and what my father and mother would say And I'll leave it at that I SO WILL take care of me and protect Eva You are so on the money when you say It is exactly how you said it It is how I react So on point Thanks for reminding me Love Me
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