He is getting very angry and cry's. He said he lays in beds at night and asks God what he did to deserve D. It breaks my heart. I've gotten him a book written by a 14yr old boy with D, and I see that he's been reading it.
When he goes to Univ of Md, I'm going to ask the Dr's there for some advice?
Also, no groups close to here, and I found a website, but he doesn't seem interested.
Any comments, suggestions?

I cannot even begin to imagine how difficult this must be for your son. I was diagnosed, but just with type 2 just over a year ago and I have really struggled. Educate yourself! Your son needs to understand along with you that diabetes is serious! Please sent him a HUGE HUG from me and let him know that he is in my thoughts tonight!

((((((David)))))),

I'm so sorry that your son is having trouble coping with a new diagnosis.

No one can understand or explain why some get sick and others do not. The ONE THING that I do know is that getting a disease or an illness is NOT a punishment for anything that your son did or did not do.

If your son had been born over a hundred years ago, that diagnosis would pretty much be a guaranteed death sentence.

The research that's being done now on diabetes and scores of other diseases pretty much guarantees that there will be a cure for diabetes before your son grows to be a man.

A combination of stem cell technology and the other awe-inspiring technologies that are being researched will probably contain the answers that your son is looking for.

Teach your son that The Universe guides us to where we need to go. Sometimes as a student, sometimes as a teacher. Your son might be going through this experience now so that he gains an understanding and an empathy of what it means to be ill. Who knows!!?? Maybe this means that he is destined to be a doctor or a nurse or a medical researcher when he grows up. Wouldn't that be wonderful!!

Your son's responsibility is this whole upcoming miracle is to keep himself healthy and well and ready for a miracle -- no excess weight, no smoking, NO STRESS

BLESS YOU BOTH. Hugs.

Barb

PS: Your son might be intersted in this: http://www.sciencedaily.com

Dear David,

I dont usually post on this board but for some reason I stopped by to look around and your post jumped out at me.

I have the autoimmune jackpot, I have M.S., lupus, type 2 diabetes and blood pressure that is out of control. And a whole host of other stuff.

I thought that I would let you know that you are not alone.We have 2 kids with type 1 diabetes. Our son was diagnosed at 2 1/2 years old and our daughter was 9 years old. Actually our daughter was the hardest to deal with as she was older. She went through the same things that you are dealing with right now. It isn't easy but it does get better. Truthfully it is harder on the parents than it is on the kids.

Both of our kids are grown now and our daughter is an RN in the CCU at our local hospital she is also working on her CDE (certified diabetic educator). She also developed Alopecia Totalis when she was a freshman in high school this means that she has no hair so she wears a bandanna all the time.

Our son is a med student. He wants to do emergency medicine. He is currently doing research on diabetes gene (no I cant even begin to explain what it is he does).

They are both very involved with the juvenile diabetes youth groups. I am sure that there are such groups in your area. If you are interested you can PM me and I will send you their e-mail addresses. They have dealt with type 1 adjustments and they ate both on the insulin pumps.

Here is the group that they are involved with they are now both councillors with the camps both the summer and the ski camps.
http://hodia.org/

Good luck,

So sorry about your son. My sister and brother both were dx w/ diabetes when they were children, also (ages 10 and 11). As a child, I always thought life was unfair to them.

My sister coped pretty well. It was more difficult for my brother to stick to his diet; he used to sneak off to the corner store and buy candy.

Both of my siblings in their 40's now, and injecting insulin 3x daily. My sister had 2 high-risk pregnancies in her late 20's/early 30's that ended in ICU babies. Both of my sister's children are healthy children now (ages 10 and 13).

I wish I had good advice to give. I still believe that life wasn't fair to them (or to your son). But, life often isn't fair to any of us. I hope he learns to cope with that.

I currently have MS. Life has also been far from fair to me during the past 6 years. But, I'd rather deal with it myself than have my child go through it.

Best wishes to both of you.
~ Faith

I am type I and am on an insulin pump, which has made my life so much more manageable. Please ask his doctor about getting him on a pump. It restores the spontaneity that children especially need. I am old, but so wish that I had my pump years ago. Getting rid of all those injections was such a relief!

Carolyn