(Denise R) Sorry to hear about your situation. I can sympathize with you completely. Well...we did have a family meeting. I have since stopped working. Unfortunately, we are having to make up some how my pay difference of 41k a year. My husband has started taking extra shifts, we've cut back alot, when he is home, he helps me around the house, he does all of the yard work, and most things I ask him if I ask. My 12 year is a different story. Sometimes she is a team player and chips in without asking or complaining. However, most of the time I get such an attitude, mouth, etc. that I would rather do it in pain then deal with her. I have learned that I have to pace myself in order to do things. I have to take a lot of and long (couple of hours) breaks when doing things. As far as the house, I used to be a clean freak--sink empty, everything in its place, house got cleaned 1 a week, bathrooms 2x a week, etc. Now, I do what I can when I can. My husband gets frustrated with me sometimes but I can understand why. He does not know exactly how bad the pain is, how I feel, etc. He tries to understand. However, unless you are going through it or have been through it, you really don't grasp the full extent of the situation. My daughter makes her bed, ours is never made unless I wash the sheets, stuff is left in the sink at night, stuff is left out and gets put up when I can, etc. If nothing else, fibro has made me slow down alot and learn to not worry about the small stuff. My home is clean and lived in. It's not a pigstye but its not spotless. We can only do what we can. That has been one of the hard things I have had to accept. I used to be pedal to the medal, always going, etc. Not anymore...not because I don't want to...just because I can't. My daughter is still having a hard time with all of this. With me not working and having to cut back on our spending, she doesn't get a lot of her wants, just her needs and that really makes her mad. She also gets mad at me when I ask her to do something, or she wants to do something that just makes me hurts even worse, or some of the things her and I used to love to do together, I just can't a lot of the time and she just doesn't understand. I don't know how to make her understand. I justed wanted to say thank you for all of your advice. Remember, one day at a time is all anyone can do.