Hello, everyone.

Well, I am feeling rested and coping better with my son's illnesses.

However, I believe I am making people I talk to uncomfortable.

For example; today I had to do a business transaction which involved me talking about my son and his conditions. This had to be discussed.

Anyhow, I noticed that the business person became really uncomfortable . . . (although the business person had to get this information in order to complete the deal)

What I am conscious of:
1. I show all my emotions in my face, (serious stress wrinkles)

2. the problems /illnesses I have to describe make my life extremely stressful daily

3. the pain and sometimes sadness can be heard in my voice tone

4. I am unable to talk without displaying deep emotions.

I get the impression from their body reactions, that somehow some people when dealing with me are overwhelm by what I am going through.

Anyhow, after we completed the business deal, outside the office, I said to myself why can't I talk about my son without showing so much emotions . . . . Ok I am unable to pretend that all is well.

The irony of today's incident, is, I really was feeling as if I was coping better.

Which is it emotions or illnesses scaring people huh?

Hey, ((((((NowItAll)))))),



I just went back over your other messages so I could get some idea of what's going on with you.

First of all, the epileptic 'thingy' -- I'd be concerned about transient ischemic attacks, especially since your blood pressure is not well-regulated. Work with your doctor(s) to get your blood pressure under control.

There is absolutely NOTHING WRONG with showing emotions and feelings in your face and in your speech. Speaking from personal experience, the worse thing for you would be to hold all this stuff in.

I have a suggestion. If you're concerned about getting "all emotional" and teary-eyed when you're trying to be calm and business-like in order to advocate clearly for your child -- it might be because you're not talking enough FEELINGS and EMOTIONS with people who can really understand what you're facing. There are good Child Neurology groups and Austism groups here and on BrainTalk. I saw that you posted a few times in the Autism board -- but mostly in a supportive role. Try asking for some support yourself and getting some support with this burden that you're carrying.

It's hard -- beyond hard -- to have to be the STRONG ONE who handles anything and everything, yet never has time to BREATHE and to FEEL.

It sounds like you're going through a real stressful period now. Try to take some time to do small things for yourself that will help you feel better and feel calmer: definitely get that blood pressure under control, drink tea out of real china cups, buy yourself some flowers, sit on the living room floor with your child and have a picnic, sit on the back steps and watch the stars and the moon after dark.

Everything is not supposed to be rigid and hard and difficult all the time. There are a lot of people here and on BrainTalk that share a lot of the same difficulties that you're going through -- ask for help and support in addition to giving help and support. Enjoy the beautiful things in this world. Enjoy your child. And BREATHE.

BIG HUGS.

Barb

Thank you Barbara,

I have been checking/researching transient ischemic attacks.

I really have to get more help so I can have some more "ME TIME".

Again thanks.

Hi NowIsAll

I agree it helps to vent and ask for support here, in addition to providing support. I think it allows us to maintain more balance and strength when dealing with people in the "real world." It gives us a little more control in how much emotion we choose to exhibit in public.

It could be either - your emotions or your son's illness. Some people can't relate to strong emotions or sad stories. Some people can relate, but don't know how to respond.

P.S. - Hi ((Moose))