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Old 01-20-2010, 02:25 PM #1
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My mother has just been diagnose with Psycotic (sp) behavior. She will never be able to live on her own again and was wondering if there is anybody out there with a parent who is only 62 yrs old with this condition?
I only want the best for her but a little confused on what I should do for her now. I know she will be in a facility for people like her but how do handle going to see her because I know she will constantly be on me to get her out. If there is anyone out there who can give me some advice I would great appreciate it.
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Hi dear Maddie ~ I'm sorry I didn't see this before. I would have replied much sooner!

Yes, she might ask you to take her home. Was she extremely non-functioning when she was home or was it off and on? Could she do every-day things at home? If she got very confused, etc when she was home, perhaps you could remind her of how things used to be when she was on her own. Remind her of things that happened (if that's not a dangerous thing to do, both for her and for you). Gently convince her that where she is, she'll have friends and people to take care of her, etc. Sure, it will be hard and she might be argumentative but you have no other choice, bless your heart.

I can't imagine how you must feel. My ex-sister-in-law is psychotic and lives in an adult foster care home. When she first went over the edge, she went after my inlaws with a butcher knife!!! She was committed to a hospital at that time. Now she's much better but will never be able to live on her own ~ she's 56. She had adapted nicely where she is and never asks to get out. But I know your case is different ~ this is your MOM!

I guess all you can do is love her, be gentle with her, and be firm. God bless you. My heart goes out to you dearheart. Peace, Lee
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I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. My mom definitely has psychological problems, but she is not psychotic.

The doctors should be able to give you some ideas about how to handle her, especially if she is committed to an institution. I think this situation is a bit similar to putting a parent in a nursing home. My mother-in-law brings up that she wants to go home, so finally my husband had the social worker come to talk to her. The social worker told her that the doctor believed that she wouldn't be safe at home, so he doesn't want something bad to happen if she goes home, and that he would be liable. Actually, my husband is her power of attorney and technically could take her out, but at least the social worker got my mother-in-law to think that it was the doctor who was keeping her in....

You'll need to just go with the flow. It's hard to predict how she will react, but take comfort that the doctors and nurses will have dealt with that kind of problem with other patients--and there will be social workers or other types of mental-health professionals who will work with the familes of patients.

Best wishes. I know we wish this hadn't happened, but take comfort in the fact that you'll be doing your best to help your mother--even if she sometimes might not be able to realize that.
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