Re: possible responce
 

Tell him you are sorry, that you didn't know it would hurt him. Do it in private like alffe said. Ask for forgiveness. If forgiveness isn't in his nature, and he spurns your attempt to say you are sorry, he might not have been that good of a friend to begin with. Friendships work both ways. It is important to beforgiving each to the other. I have said I am sorry to my best friend before. Because there was real love there, I was forgiven and we moved on to have even a better friendship than we had before. I really hope that this person in your life will see that you so much wanted to help. In life we need all the good people around us as we can have. Remember it works both ways, and do not be so hard on yourself if things don't work as you hoped. You cannot "make" another individual see your points of view. You can only hope, that you both can rise above this situation and continue on with a good friendship. I wish you all the best. ginnie

Ginnie, thank you!!
 

:( I have a feeling, I know how things are going to turn out,
though, because, he's told me, already, he shares things, only,
with people, he trusts. :o

Phyllis

Hi Phyllis
 

I will pray that he listens to you. I will also keep you in my thoughts. It is hard to face something like that, I know he meant alot to you. Friends do go in and out of our lives, even when we don't want that to happen. If it doesn't work out, rise above it, and keep trying to better yourself. You will make other friends as your nature is so caring. You will find others, that allow for a human mistake which we all make. Forgiveness is always the key. Don't beat up on yourself OK? ginnie

Ginnie, he's the president off an organization, I belong to!........................
 

:) It's an organization, I've been a part of, for, years!
It's an organization for people with mental health issues.
Depression, anxiety, (Schizo-afffective Disorder, (which, he has,)
etc., .

Phyllis

RE: Oh boy
 

Well that sure explains why you wanted to make amends. Considering what the group is, all the more reason for forgiveness. When mental health issues are involved, and the president has those same issues, it seems to me, that allowing for judgemental mistakes would be part of the business of being president. We are suppose to embrace each other, and for our mistakes too. My son is depressed and every so touchy, no matter what I say to him. I have to allow him this testyness, because I am accounting for his depression. The president of the group is to lead. Part of that is to lead by example, especially when the mental health of all are involved. If this falling out, would effect you so negatively, maybe there is another group or counceiling you could go to. I would not want to be around somebody, that after this kind of falling out, would judge me harshly in front of the group. It would make me very uncomfortable to be around the group. We all are so fragile at times, and I sure hope there can be a resolution where you don't feel so bad. You need to feel comfortable whereever you go for council, and to be accepted with your faults. He should be the first to forgive, because he is in the position of leadership. That has responsibility with it to others. Do you kinda know what I mean? I hope you know that I do care about what happens to you in this situation. I have been rejected by some in my own life and it can sure hurt. Be kind, even when it isn't always returned to you. ginnie:hug:

Whoa, Ginnie, hold on!! Put on the brakes!!!
 

:confused: As I said, he has an illness, himself. I mean, doesn't that mean,
anything? I mean, we had a great friendship, before, this!!:D
Yes, he's the organizations' president, *but*, he has issues, himself.
This is a totally volunteer run organization for people with mental
health issues. So, we, all, have *something*! Therefore, I need/ want to
consider, his, heeds, also. And no, I can't find something else,
because, I love everyone there, including, him, aside, from this issue.

Phyllis

Re: Ok
 

[I am glad you love the people in your group. It does make a person feel good to be around others who understand. I get why you don't want to leave that group. When you develope a rapore with a group, I would not want to leave it eithor. Of course you want to hear his needs too. I just think there needs to be an acceptance of each others faults, considering it happened between you both. That can't happen if he isn't open to your appology. I don't want him to single you out in the group to make your uncomfortable. I will hope and pray that he has forgiveness and you can go on with this wonderful organization with a good heart. Let me know what happens and I will continue to pray that a good result can happen, where you can continue on being friends, and enjoying the company of all those at your get togethers. We all need the support of each other, especially dealing with all the emotional issues. My thoughts and hopes are with you. ginnie

Ginnie, I want you to understand,....................................... .......
 

I *know*, he would *never* bring this up in a group. If anything,
it'll be discussed in private or in private on FaceBook, which, he and I
are both, on. He'd *never* embarrass me, anywhere! That, I know! He's
not doing *any* of this to be mean. Again, he only confides in people
he really trusts and I broke that trust. I really can't blame him.
I'm only hoping that he can see that I only did what, I did, because,
*I* needed someone else to help *me* help *him*.

Phyllis

RE: I get it
 

It is good that he would not bring it up in public. I hope then in private he will re-establish trust with you. I will hope and pray he does, as I can tell the relationship you had with him is very important to you. I am glad he isn't mean or anything like that. I just hope it works out, that your friendship can go on, and become stronger even in the face of this situation. We do need each other on this earth, and friends are hard to come by. I will be thinking of you tomorrow, and praying. ginnie

Well,, I only see him zon Wednesdays.................................
 

:)It's a once, a week, thing. So, you have an entire week!!;)
:)Thanks a bunch!!;)

Phyllis