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Old 07-21-2013, 05:33 AM #1
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Default Desperate girlfriend!!

My boyfriend has an acquired brain injury.

We have been dating for a year and a half now and I absolutely adore him and I can't imagine life without him. Lately though his lack of emotional connection and inability to express anything is becoming a much harder issue for me to deal with. I realise he can't express emotions well as a result of his injury, but that is really the only thing I need from him.

I just keep having this niggling thought that he wouldn't really care if we broke up and maybe he's only dating me as a last ditch effort because no one else has given him a chance so he'll just settle.

I've true to discuss this with him call and openly and have asked for his true feelings towards and I get blank stares and 'I don't know' not overly reassuring when all I want is for him to say, shut up I love you, cool?!.
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Old 07-14-2014, 07:39 PM #2
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Default If you love him don`t give up.

I really understand your doubts but it`s along hard road down to hell...If you can`t be a couple don`t,but if you really love him you should try anything.Love conquers all.Try for your own good.
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he needs to show a lot of interest in you and love because before you can get married you need to see that in him and you need to hear I love you and see it in deeds. I have an acquired brain injury and I hate to say it but my girlfriend treats me great but we probably wouldn't stay together if I didn't need her so muchneeded and being loved a 2 different things
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My husband had a head injury when we were in HS and is not emotional since this happened. It is hard some times but as an emotional person and had to learn to be able to separate emotion from our conversations. It has helped a lot.
If he can't be emotional due to his injury you are giving him an unrealistic expectation.
If he says he loves you then he probably means it.
He is dealing with these changes first hand and probably can't or doesn't know how to say what is going on. (he is a man too, they are weird and can turn internal)
I would suggest seeing if he is willing to go to therapy with you so both of you can adjust to this new perspective of life after his accident.
Not relationship counseling necessarily but it would be part of it.

It gets better and I have to remind my hubby sometimes that I am still an emotional person. He will listen sometimes and let me vent about stuff but I cant vent about him in an accusatory way at all. Because he can't help some of it and that wouldn't be fair. I have been dealing with it for 10 years now



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My boyfriend has an acquired brain injury.

We have been dating for a year and a half now and I absolutely adore him and I can't imagine life without him. Lately though his lack of emotional connection and inability to express anything is becoming a much harder issue for me to deal with. I realise he can't express emotions well as a result of his injury, but that is really the only thing I need from him.

I just keep having this niggling thought that he wouldn't really care if we broke up and maybe he's only dating me as a last ditch effort because no one else has given him a chance so he'll just settle.

I've true to discuss this with him call and openly and have asked for his true feelings towards and I get blank stares and 'I don't know' not overly reassuring when all I want is for him to say, shut up I love you, cool?!.
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