Hi,

I have a tricky situation that i would like to ask for help. The question is, how do I exclude my abuser (who is a direct family member) from my wedding? Being an Asian American, our culture has always been to value harmony and togetherness. So, the family has always denied the sexual abuse that the abuser has done. Now that my wedding is approaching (finally leading a normal happy life with my life partner), I don't want him to be there to spoil. However, I struggle with the ethical issue in how to exclude him from the invite list. And the problem is, everybody knows i have this family member existing (but don't know abt the abuse), so how do i exclude him and at the same reduce the number of guests asking abt his presence or gossiping abt it at the wedding? =(

Pls help me.
Thank you.