[Hermit]

Hi

I'm 38 years old.

Since my birth, i always get shouted and yelled at.

First my mom, then my teachers, my bosses and now my wife.

The thing is that I don't respond and the only way for me to deal with those situations is absorb all the critics (even if they're not right).


Lately I feel that the fact that i cannot handle all the screaming and shouting, is getting in to my brain and I'm afraid to get a stroke or other type of damage.

Is there a truth to my fears to get a brain damage (I already feel mental damaged) ?

[Kitt]

Welcome Hermit.

Someone will be along to help.

[Lara]

Hi Hermit,

Welcome to the NeuroTalk Support Groups.

I look at it this way... there is good stress and there is bad stress.

Good stress keeps us alert and functioning well.
Bad stress can build up and make us feel ill.

It would be quite usual for us to not be able to handle screaming and shouting.
That's enough to make anyone feel physically ill.

Have you ever thought of getting some sort of counselling or group mediation for the household dynamics?

I guess some personalities would yell back, but I'm one of those people who would have once just absorbed it all. These days I've learned to let things slide and walk away without letting daily pressures build up in me.

[Hermit]

Originally Posted by Lara

Hi Hermit,

Welcome to the NeuroTalk Support Groups.

I look at it this way... there is good stress and there is bad stress.

Good stress keeps us alert and functioning well.
Bad stress can build up and make us feel ill.

It would be quite usual for us to not be able to handle screaming and shouting.
That's enough to make anyone feel physically ill.

Have you ever thought of getting some sort of counselling or group mediation for the household dynamics?

I guess some personalities would yell back, but I'm one of those people who would have once just absorbed it all. These days I've learned to let things slide and walk away without letting daily pressures build up in me.

Hi Lara

Thank you for your reply

As you wrote some of the stress is positive but also negative

A couple of years ago I used to attend a psychology and accept touching pains from my past a a boy, the therapy didn't much help.

Now I cannot take it no more but my fear is that by reacting I could do physical harm to my wife or my employer as well as harming my self.

That is why I absorb all the sufferance and by that I feel that my mental condition might ruin my physical and neurological condition.

[almondface]

Originally Posted by Hermit

Hi

I'm 38 years old.

Since my birth, i always get shouted and yelled at.

First my mom, then my teachers, my bosses and now my wife.

The thing is that I don't respond and the only way for me to deal with those situations is absorb all the critics (even if they're not right).


Lately I feel that the fact that i cannot handle all the screaming and shouting, is getting in to my brain and I'm afraid to get a stroke or other type of damage.

Is there a truth to my fears to get a brain damage (I already feel mental damaged) ?

Sometimes i also experience this, but i am now learning to be more assertive. For me, i am learning to "defend myself" against the rude shouting if it does not make sense. But i do not understand your case enough whether to tell if it causes stroke. Mental stress would be present though... Take Care ~