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12-26-2017, 02:21 AM | #1 | |||
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Pam, I think that Gerry has offered you wise thoughts.
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12-26-2017, 05:31 PM | #2 | |||
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Only fools rush in, and I am not a fool. As things stand, I can’t see a breakthrough. I’m lonely & scared but those 2 things combined are not going to push me back to a relationship.
I’m mindful though of something I have personally encountered over the years of pain Mgt and psychs and my sister who is a nurse voiced it on Xmas eve, her exact words were psychs just encourage you to leave, they will give you workbooks on how to leave, they don’t give workbooks on how to work to save the relationship. And ironically it’s true. My psych has given me 2 books to “leave” the relationship & I understand db psych has been telling him to leave me for the last 2 years. So in all, perhaps we are neither destined to work it out. I do believe in féte and the inevitable. I can forgive a once in a life time indiscretion, I can’t forgive ongoing lies and deceit.
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12-26-2017, 07:20 PM | #3 | |||
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Well I’ve made a decision to do something I’ve never done before, or considered before. With my constant pain companion and these last months emotional trauma, not limited to just db, surgery and complications included, I’ve asked my mum to accompany me to a cosmetic practice for a consult on dermal fillers for the bag under my right eye in particular. It’s so much more noticeable than the one on the left and maybe ask about the big wrinkle indent in between my eyebrows.
I’ve never done anything electively and I’m not going for a surgical procedure where they knock me out, I just want to consider the possibility of something that will boost my confidence and dermal fillers seem to be an option. If I look better, I will feel better. I look tired and drained and I don’t feel professional in my job anymore. I feel the injured staff looking at me and thinking how can I get better with her help, she looks worse than I do... And I’m going to go to the dentist and enquire about braces to bring my teeth back into alignment so the gap between my 2 front teeth stops getting bigger. I have a problem with my jaw, since my late teens and can’t open my mouth wide and with all my back and gynea problems I just hoped it would go away. My mum spent a fortune on her children’s teeth, me included and I had braces at the age of 12. Big silver shiny things, but now they are clear & barely noticeable. I have top health cover atm & now is probably the time to get my teeth done while I can still afford the top cover. I might be eligible for a Medicare rebate as well because of my jaw. Whew, I’m glad I have written it down, that’s a step towards me looking after me. I won’t be spending $25k like db did, but I think it’s an important step for me to think about me. The cosmetic I may not be brave enough to do, but it doesn’t hurt to enquire.
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"Thanks for this!" says: | Dmom3005 (10-22-2018), eva5667faliure (12-27-2017), ger715 (12-26-2017), kiwi33 (12-26-2017), Wide-O (12-27-2017) |
12-26-2017, 09:39 PM | #4 | ||
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Pam,
YEA...... .....So glad Pam is thinking of Pam. I definitely agree; had a bit done myself some time back. It did help me feel better about myself. And;most important,it builds up your confidence. You go for it.....It starts with enquiring so that's the first step.....keep it going.. We're rooting for you... Gerry. Last edited by ger715; 12-27-2017 at 01:10 AM. |
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"Thanks for this!" says: | Dmom3005 (10-22-2018), eva5667faliure (12-27-2017), kiwi33 (12-26-2017), PamelaJune (12-27-2017), Wide-O (12-27-2017) |
12-26-2017, 11:38 PM | #5 | |||
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Grand Magnate
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Pam, those all sound like very positive things to do to me .
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"Thanks for this!" says: | Dmom3005 (10-22-2018), eva5667faliure (12-27-2017), ger715 (12-27-2017), PamelaJune (12-27-2017), Wide-O (12-27-2017) |
12-27-2017, 02:35 AM | #6 | |||
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I'd go with Nike here: Just do it!
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12-27-2017, 07:59 AM | #7 | |||
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Consult booked 10am Friday. My mum moves fast, I asked her to come with me as I’m too scared to go on my own, she messaged me back saying she’s at the hair salon with my sister and they have booked an appt with the clinic my sister went to earlier in the year.
Consult includes going ahead with it if inclined.... feeling quite adventurous.... Now to book the dentist lol.
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I can still remember what life was like before pain became my life long companion Last edited by PamelaJune; 12-28-2017 at 02:09 AM. |
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