its hard enough to have a life altering disease, without spousal issues on top of it. It sounds like your plate is full beyond measure, and I would demand a break for myself. You cant work on your marriage, or your partner till you work on yourself. Please, find the time, the love, the respect, and the space needed to work on just you. You are important enough, good enough, and worthy enough to be worked on first. Once you get yourself into a stable space, only then can and should you work on marriage or spouses or children. Make sure while you are working on you, he is working on himself. its harder to knock down a house with a strong foundation.

I wish much love and support for you. Hang in there. :hug:

DH has some sharing
 

Hello,

Thank you for all your sharing and kind words for Faith. She is still in her flare and has the problem with a hyper sex drive. I had given her free computer access yesterday and she has re registered with and adult web site again and initiated contact with a local man in our home town. Her previous activity included emails to several people with dates, times and details planning for sex outside of marriage. She had given her cell phone number out and had received calls on it from one of the strangers. Her mental strengths are down and she has been resisting me and a lot her support friends counsel to be hospitalized as well as has resisted medication to help her with hyper mania issues that include the sex drive. She is just not herself and does not realize it. Her best decision would be to hospitalize herself and we have been working on a court order to have this happen since she is currently resiting all counsel to do this. We are trying to protect the real Faith from this compromised Faith that has in mind to do very dangerous an damaging activity. She of course feels imprisoned in her own home. This disease is hate full for everyone not just her. Thanks for your support, DH

Excuse me, Stop with the word hospitalization and use the appropriate word (COMMITMENT). I understand Faith is not acting in a way you approve of or in a manner constant with her past; however, this is in no way reason for commitment! You also can not commit her. I have not heard that she is a danger to herself or to society!! These are the only reasons for commitment. While I encourage her to seek treatment from her neuro; I in no way encourage her to commit herself!
It seems Faith is in a flair and has lesions which control her mood... This is not uncommon. We all know this or we should. It will end when the flair ends. Should I and others be committed because we scream, yell, toss dishes... due to mood changes while in a flair. NO!! Should I be committed because I want or have sex with the man down the street while in a flair -- NO!
I understand Faith's behavior hurts your feelings, but your feelings are not what I am concerned with. I'm concerned with Faith and the poor support she is getting from her husband.
If I were a husband in such a situation; I would make arrangements with family members to stay close and give all possible support to my wife.
Your current behavior may well be why Faith is still in a flair. Stress can put one in a flair and will keep one in it. Faith needs all family understanding and support possible, and all roids... to help pull her out of this.
I could not agree more - Faith - :hug:Much Love & Understanding - I've been there

Having an intimate encounter with someone you do not know is very dangerous in every way, shape and form!! Disease, assault and yes, even death are a real possibility.

My point is that it is not legal grounds for commitment. Danger to ones self as defined by state law for legal commitment! Driving above the speed limit is also very dangerous as in possible death.
OT - but there are a lot of middle aged men and women without MS who totally change their behavior, clothes.... and have affairs with strangers. Funny, I have not seen a single one committed due to this behavior. Have a great day!

I am going to end this and say I hope faith gets the love, attention, and affection she needs, and deserves. Without ridicule, and without judgment. There are reasons its hard to commit a spouse. in years gone by, a man could simply say "put her in there" and the courts veiwing the wife as his property would comply. With or without just cause.

This has now gone from a woman in pain asking if anyone else gets the same sx when they are in a flare, to a full court press of stress. I am not there. I cannot personally stretch out my hand and hold hers.

I wish the best for Faith, and I pray hard that she gets the help she wants, and needs, but now that her husband is posting in her name, on her account. I no longer feel comfortable responding or adding to this thread. I would hope that he open HIS own account, and respond. Privacy and respect for a spouse are paramount in building and keeping any relationship going.

I dont mind hearing from a spouse as a care giver, we have a few here, but I do have a problem with locking a woman out of her accounts, emails, phones, and computer access, then showing up and posting on her account. I would hope that he opens HIS OWN account if he wishes to add to the conversation. IMHO Faith deserved privacy, and respect and the ability to speak privately to others who may have been suffering the same sx or events, without the responding party having fear of those personal messages being taken away.

Since I can no longer count on who is behind this member name, and whether or not Faith is now actually allowed to see our advice and love, I am going to step out of the circle and simply pray for the best in the very bad situation.

I wish you much love faith. Please find us when you can.

as it seems Faith's account is being used by someone other than herself, I am locking this thread and moderating the account pending verification from Faith when she is again the person using her own account here

Faith, if you are reading this, you remain in our thoughts and prayers and we hope things will soon be much better for you

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