It's a very old and wise saying. I've always kinda taken it with a grain of salt, knowing, that in certain times in your life, you must plan for the future and can't just live day to day.

Things are different now, I started noticing my anger, sadness and dissatisfaction, when I was 63 when my DH of 35 years, died at 66 and left me hanging alone with this dam MS. My love my best friend, my cheerleader was gone.

Now when I think about what my future holds, I'm upset. I DON'T HAVE ONE....so to speak. I'm laughing, because I have to.

I've come to an understanding with myself and I must quit thinking about what my future may or may not hold, to save my feeling and my sanity. I must relish in each day as it comes, do the best I can and thank God for it.

My Children and Grands are the future now and I will guide them in any way I am able. It really is ONE DAY AT A TIME, for me, now.

I'll be here every day, if you'll have me.

I think everyone that lives long enough has to come to terms with the fact that their life won't continue on forever. Unfortunately, imo, those of us with MS need to come to terms with this long before most "regular folk".

Sally as we know getting old ain't for sissies and geez getting old with MS is really the icing on the crap cake many days however like you wrote, the great news is that your wonderful family definitely gives you something to stick around for.

I still like to believe the docs when they say Jim will live as long as any other person without ms. There really isn't any reason for him not to as long as he stays healthy. With his kidney issues in the past we still have to worry over the bladder but hey, it could be worse and be the big C, or sudden death or something worse than ms right?

We are blessed with what we have and take it one day at a time too Sally. Jim hasn't walked since he was about 35 so it happened really fast for him. But that man is an inspiration let me tell you. Most would have crawled under and gave up. He almost did but decided living in the moment was so much better!

I can't imagine Trivia or NT without you. I kinda plan and kinda don't. I'll be 55 this year, the MS makes me feel much older. MS takes it or age does. I have to take it one day at a time.

Thanks, (((((Jim & Sandy))))))

Sometimes I get deep in thought about what my future holds. Life's turned out so different than what I thought it would be. Not just with the MS but with everything. It'd be really easy to get depressed about it all. So.....I try not to think on it too much. Because it's going to be what it's going to be. I have to do my part and make the best decisions I can about my health and my life but that's about all I can do. Do the best I can and leave the rest up to God. Some days it's harder than others.

I, too, believe that taking it one day at a time is the best method. I try not to get too far ahead of myself. It makes me anxious. I figure if I can lay my head down at night and know that I've done my best that day then that's got to count for something.

And I cannot imagine this place without you here, Sal!

Oh Sally I wish so much to know what the future holds, but none of us know for sure. I have 95 year old friends that get out and walk everyday! and I have 33 year old friends that dropped from a stroke, and are working hard and are still not fully recovered a year later. One friend has massive amounts of cancer in her family history. she beat it twice. Her husband doesnt have so much as freckles in his family history, and he dropped dead of bad lukemia at age 50! Now she is finding it very hard to move forward, as their whole marriage was designed around HER going first! Surprise!

To quote Forrest Gump's momma. Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you are going to get.

I am sure since the death of your beloved DH you have learned many things. You have learned how strong you are. Remembered how funny you are. Shown yourself that you CAN get things done by hiring pretty men to come do it! Please dont let a moment of lonelyness keep you in a corner. come on out when you are done, and lets get busy laughing, singing, and living.

Are there things you can do outside of the house? Read to kids at the library? read letters to seniors at the elderly housing? Ladle out food at the homeless shelter? Sort clothes at the Salvation Army? Help a church with projects for Haiti, or Chile? You still have so much left to give Sal Pal. You have been a great cheerleader, advisor, and mentor for so many, right here, in our small circle. Be proud of yourself. I think you give far more back to this life, than you give yourself credit for.

Even when we disagree, you are loved sal pal.

Sally, unfortunately, I can relate to this. Neither of us thought we'd be left behind by ourselves. Even tho both of us have children and other family it's still not the same as having your mate there with you. There's just an unspoken bond there that nothing can ever replace.

I've discovered alot of things about myself since that dreaded day. The most surprising was how strong I really am. I surprised myself. And having survived the trials I have.....it gives me sort of an inner peace that I will be okay through just about anything. Not that I want to test it....or prove it.....Lord, no......but I know (through experience) that I can survive.

Today is the 2nd day of WTF.. see my siggy..

You peeps are wonderful..thank you

(((Kelly))), I know you understand.

Nothing but hugs for you here Sal.

There isn't a one of us who knows what the future holds. We can plan all we want but when it comes down to it, we don't know ****. I gave up worrying about it. I do my best to ensure I will have something to live on when I get old but who knows...other than that...no plans!

You are a leader on this board. You lead by example. You give people hope when their hope is waning. When you have no advice, you give hugs. Your presence here is a blessing to us all, each and every day. Thank you. You matter NOW!