Well, you know what I said already. But listen, if DH isn't complaining and is stressed because of the boys, well heck, it could be because of that and that alone. And even if he is stressed doing it all, he'll be fine. The more you try to help when he says stop and rest, the more stressed he'll get if you don't listen. Trust me on this. Save the "helping" for when you feel good. Although I probably would have given you a spanking for trying to take that garbage when he told you to leave it. hahahaha

Dejabo/Kitty-Thank you for telling me that being a mom means more than just doing everything. Sometimes facing reality and the facts is more than one wants but it is what is best for everyone. I was just thinking about the consequence (new one) we give our boys if they don't behave- writing x-amount of sentences for why they did not behave. For not helping when needed- would be very effective. It would make them think and understand.

Eddie- Thank you for the info. I do take estrogen due to a hysterectomy and at one time took an hrt with both estrogen/progesterone. When on the old hrt I never felt well which is why they took me off of it. The doctor has tested my hormone levels since my sister has hormone/thyroid problems- so I get them tested once/twice a year. It does make you think how hormones really can effect a person though.

Sandy- You crack me up!! No- I don't want to be spanked!! What you said in your post made a lot of sense. Hearing it from a different perspective makes one think more about their actions and how they effect others. I'm glad you told me what needed to be said- definitely what I needed to hear!

Thank you everyone. I'm glad to be here- regardless if I belong here or not. You all are very helpful and supportive. Very grateful for you words of wisdom!

Hugs

Coffeegirl

You belong here

Coffeegirl, nearly everyone here knows exactly what you are talking about. No matter what name they eventually put on your disease, symptoms like ours are difficult to cope with. It really does help to communicate with people who have similar symptoms.

my boy was tough to raise. My daughter just got it. When mom didnt feel well, it was time to raise the bar and step up. The boy was all "what?!" he had the attitude that I owed him, and saw me weak and chose those moments to act out or act up. I was firm, fair and consistant with him, and I was able to bring him around the corner. Boys are slower to understand and slower to figure it out as teenagers. When they become young men, they catch up, but as teenagers, or preteens, they are hard! Girls start off easier, and as they hit late teens, and young women they become harder.

Hang in there, being a mother is the hardest job you will ever love. Make some house rules, just like school rules, and post them on the refrig. I also had a schedule on the fridge. It was mandatory that home work be done at the table! and be finished before video games. I allowed play time after school, but as soon as dinner was done, it was time to work on school projects. behaving badly netted you extra work projects, or chores. Boys need a leader, even if you are quiet about it. If you are serious, they will know it, and fall in line.

Bless you. its hard work when you feel fantastic.

I'm so sad to hear you're not doing well Julie!!

This last weekend sounds like it was a pretty rough one for you!

It brought tears to my eyes to read that thread because you sound like me in January of last year before I had my diagnosis.

The stumbling/staggering/choking/confusion/vision problems. good grief. Im so sorry my dear!

But your hubby is such a great guy!!!! and your kids! They understand I promise, especially that hubby of yours! I'm sure it really affects him to see you so discombobulated (I hope that word doesn't offend you, I find that that is the best way to describe myself on my really bad MS days) but he loves you and he's going to take care of you so don't feel bad when he does! That's what he's there for! I tell my boyfriend that he is my functioning right side because when my right side turns into a huge sand bag he gets on my right side and walks holding me up so people can't even tell! lol

He loves you dearly and so do your kids! You support them, they support you! <3

Hopefully you can get into the Mayo ASAP and out of limboland!

I hope things are starting to look up for you!
Be Well!
-Ana D

Thank you everyone for accepting me here and for all your support. Your words of wisdom are beyond grateful for me in many ways. All of you are just blessings!

Marion/Sandy: Thank you!! Millions for telling me that it is okay.

Dejibo: You are a great mom. Thank you for giving me some insight about parenting with health issues. I need a little direction- as you can see. I'm going to be less cranky and more assertive with consequences (writing sentences does the trick with my boys)- they absolutely hate it. It is worse than having something taken away from them.

Ana: You are so sweet! I laughed at the word you used. It was very fitting and appropriate! So very true.

Hugs to all of you!!

Coffeegirl