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legzzalot 11-17-2008 02:58 PM

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Originally Posted by 4boysmom (Post 409713)

I appreciate the fact that ADs have helped me find balance and perspective in my life! If I'm tired, it is okay to go home from work, put on jammies, and lay in bed and watch TV, at 6:00!! At least I put in a full day's work!

So my house is cluttery. Maybe I should dust - more than once a month :hug: Maybe I should eat better and lose some weight. Maybe my hair is a mess, needs to be colored and cut. I really don't care anymore.

You are my hero and I find myself saying the same darn things! I cleaned my house yesterday because I felt sorry for it. I think it was the first time in 2 weeks I had swept and scrubbed the floors and vacuumed and cleaned the bathroom. Yeah yeah two weeks you say...hey in two weeks time with a soldier a dog a 4 yr old a guinea pig and a hamster you can imagine the mess.

Blessings2You 11-17-2008 03:39 PM

You're supposed to scrub floors???

Gazelle 11-17-2008 06:29 PM

HereKitty, you cracked me up about being "so type B." :D

Legzz, I can only imagine. No, in fact, I CAN imagine! :eek:

Yep, Type A. Yep, hang around with Type A's. Yep, we sometimes kill each other verbally just because. Yep, it adds stress. Yep, it's hard to shake.

I so want to be like HK........ But there's so much to do and so little time and..... :p

braingonebad 11-17-2008 07:02 PM

I have type A traits but mostly I'm type B.


I got more *A* when I became a mother, because I was the only one to do things, so I might as well do them right.

And I got more *A* yet when I got sick and realized the docs I was seeing were not trying terribly hard to figure out what was wrong. What's wrong with me pointing out what they wrote down wrong? I'm **** for that? I don't think so.

:o

Still, I do not have to be in charge. You wanna make dinner, drive, take care of Christmas, etc? Far out!

Wake me up when you need me.

SallyC 11-17-2008 07:44 PM

I think I've been a Type A, take charge, my way or the hway, person for as long as I can remember....that's why I have MS, you know...my own worse enemy and all..:rolleyes:

In the last five years, thanks to Paxil and Prozac, I have become a very Kelly-like, type B.:D I don't care if the world falls apart, just give me my 'puter, my Family & Friends, my TV and chocky chip cookies and I'm set..:Crazy 2:

AZjanie 11-17-2008 09:10 PM

I am a type "A" with a type "F" disease. :mad:


Gazelle 11-17-2008 09:20 PM

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Originally Posted by AZjanie (Post 409978)
I am a type "A" with a type "F" disease. :mad:

I SO KNOW what that "F" stands for! :eek::eek::eek:


But I'm with you on characterizing it like that. :D

PolarExpress 11-18-2008 12:19 AM

I'm the polar (no pun intended) opposite of the type "A" personality..Is there a type "Z"? (as in Zzzzz)

lady_express_44 11-18-2008 02:04 AM

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Originally Posted by 4boysmom (Post 409582)
Another thread got me to thinking?

Does having a "type A" personality lend yourself to having MS show up in your life?

I know many of us have been told that we had anxiety or were stressed before dx. My PCP used to tell me, you're just such a typeA! Let it go!

Just wondering if being a type A makes you prone to MS. I know my first flare came at the height of my Type A-ness. Anyone else been told they are "Type A"? Anyone see any of these traits that may have contributed to stress that may have triggered the MS nestled in our genes?

I asked the same question when I first came on the forums, as I had always been very driven and tenacious. I wondered if that might have contributed in some way to triggering or escalating the MS.

From the various responses I received about peoples’ personalities, it seems there were ALL types that ended up with MS. The only similarity was that most people said they definitely “felt” the stress more since they’ve had the disease.

There are people with Type A that have depression, but I don’t think being Type A causes people to be particularly prone to it. In fact, some of the lowest achievers are seen to have qualities that are most often associated with depression, like feeling disconnected, poor social skills, melancholy, disinterested, unfocused, lacking in motivation, etc.

Sadly, it seems a large % of us with MS (no matter what our underlying character) are often dx with depression. Sorry to hear you are one of them ... but at least you are in great company. :)

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Originally Posted by 4boysmom (Post 409582)
In the other thread, someone felt the need to correct stats stated by another. It didn't really add to the thread, but this person felt the need to correct the misinformation at the sake of making others upset. I've been there, and done that, I recognized the pattern. I've lost that need to "always be right!" since dx and years of ADs (not on any for the past 6 months, now though!) ...

ADs did help me put perspective in my life. I don't think I'm nearly as bad as I used to be: liked being in charge; had to share my opinion - and of course, my opinion was the only one that made any sense ;); perfectionist; very emotional; helped everyone with everything; never said no; and on and on.

You might have both of those characteristics, but I don't agree that 'Type A' and/or 'depressed' people always have to be “right”. However, whatever similarities to you that I might appear to have (at least according to YOUR humble assessment ;)), you and are very different people . . .

For instance, “who” gets credit for being “right” has never been important to me me; what does is fixing or getting to the truth of matters, for the benefit of people who do care. Frankly, I’d rather that the correct information be posted by “whom-ever” to begin with :rolleyes:. . . but I will correct misinformation when I feel it matters to do so.

Fortunately I have never really suffered from depression or anxiety, and I have no problem saying “no” either. I was a perfectionist for a while back in the late 70’s/early 80’s, but I am definitely a long way from that now. I've had this disease way too long to care about those kind of things any more. ;)

As far as people being upset on the the other thread, the Biogen Rep is the only one that really had any reason be, because it was HIS "misinformation" that I challenged . . . but, I doubt he reads this forum anyway. :D I don’t let “hearsay” and “opinions” get much in the way of those kind of responses, because unlike how you’ve described yourself, I am most often “logical” rather then “emotional” when it comes to discussing "factual" matters.

You resurrected a thread that had been sitting idle for 4 days, so that you could “share your opinion”. Your opinion was not regarding the “notes” highlighted on that thread, or even to contribute input into any of the “facts” that were posted. It seems it was mostly to tell me that you thought I did not have the right to any say on that thread, and that in your opinion, I should “stay away” from the topic. That has to be the strongest indication that you really don’t know me at all. :)

http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/thread59295-3.html

It seems you didn’t get enough of an opportunity to say everything that you wanted to on the other thread though, and felt it necessary to dredge it up again here. :confused: If your goal was to try to find a drug that helped you with what you view as unpleasant character flaws, like having to voice an opinion on things that don’t matter, or to not “have” to have control over things, etc. . . . I'm not so sure that your antidepressants are working as well as you might have hoped they were. Then again, I never knew you before you started using them . . . so perhaps this IS a great improvement. :cool:

Cherie

4boysmom 11-18-2008 09:21 AM

I was on a cruise, and haven't contributed to any forum for months because I've been busy living life.

I didn't even look at the dates to know it was four days old. It was on the top of my list, and the thread topic caught my eye.

You weren't getting the hint others were trying to give you in the thread, and yes, my Type A kicked in and I thought maybe I could say something that would help you get the hint.

This thread was started because it got me thinking about my personality, and why I felt the need to help you get the hint! You are right, I could have said what I needed on that thread and left you out of it. Because I am NOT currently on any ADs, that ugly part of my personality showed up.

See, I don't always have to be right. And I'm a big enough girl to admit when things I say belong in the category of "stupid stuff!"

I stand behind my opinion that people shouldn't contribute to threads to correct others, just because they think their set of facts are correct and others aren't with a product they have no personal stake in.

You said in your thread you don't feel the need to be right, but you did in that thread! You were correct and the biogen rep was wrong. You reiterated that comment in this thread. So you do feel the need to be right! That is what I took from your comments.

As far as logic goes, I'd dare say I'm more than adequate! You can be emotional (in other words, your tear ducts are directly tied to your emotions) and passionate and be logical. I finished in the top 96 percentile of people taking the GRE in analysis and logic.

Your need to "fix" things is a typical type A trait, at least the way my PCP described it. That was one thing I had to work on, and by my responding to your thread right now is just another example of me not letting "stupid stuff" go, and trying to fix it. Your bunch of smiley faces reeks of sarcasm towards me and not any kind of light-heartedness. So I feel the need to try and say something that would help you see I'm not all bad. But then just putting in that sentence about the smiley-faces was not nice and did not fix anything.

Someone help me let it all go!!!!!!!! I don't know you, we'll probably never meet, yet I have this burning need to patch things up.

These are the feelings I'm talking about in this thread! They are not helpful to my MS, but because of, as you call them, "unpleasant character flaws" I can't let it drop. Neither could you, so we are in many ways alike!


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