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Old 09-27-2012, 04:19 AM #1
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Sometimes I come across stuff like this. People saying to me "well my husband takes 5 mg prednison a day for over 10 years now for his MG, and he's working and all".

Or today, in my mailbox:

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Just to let you know my brother is 60 today. He's had MG since he was a boy and has gone on to have a very fulfilling life. Out of us 6 siblings I would say he's had the most successful career, he looks after his health and still runs most days, has a wonderful family with 3 fabulous boys - quite annoying actually.
Andy Jones: Where there is a will there is a way as I often tell myself
Scott Baker: That's awesome to hear, my daughter has had MG since 3 years old, is 12 now. Very encouraging to hear of someone that has had it most of their life and is still doing well.
Kim Munro: That's wonderful to hear. Gives others with MG more hope and encouragement. Happy 60th Birthday to your Brother.
I do NOT find this encouraging or nice. I think, well good for him, but I must admit it is kind of hurting me a little, when you say "where there is a will there is a way".
I just don't see the added value of this... But maybe that's just me
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Sometimes I come across stuff like this. People saying to me "well my husband takes 5 mg prednison a day for over 10 years now for his MG, and he's working and all".

Or today, in my mailbox:



I do NOT find this encouraging or nice. I think, well good for him, but I must admit it is kind of hurting me a little, when you say "where there is a will there is a way".
I just don't see the added value of this... But maybe that's just me
A few years ago, a colleague of mine seeing me in a wheelchair with all my "gadgets" came over and said- forgive me for asking, but what is your illness?

I answered-Myasthenia Gravis. He looked puzzled and said-Are you sure? I thought MG was an illness you can fully recover from and lead a completely normal life with.

I answered- Did you ever have a patient who died from Hodgkin's disease?

He said-yes.

I said- But the majority of patients with Hodgkin's disease fully recover from their illness, so how is that?

He never bothered me with such questions again.

The point is that it may be true that most MG patients recover from their illness and can lead a normal life (or at least appear as if they do ) but unfortunately not all of them.

When people tell you about patients who recovered from MG when you weren't so lucky (yet), they can do it because they want to encourage you and give you hope (which is good and well-intentioned) , or because they are criticizing you for not "putting enough efforts" into getting better.

Some of them also have "good advise" such as-why don't you consult a leading expert, why don't you eat this or that, why don't you try A, B, C and D which really helped my cousin's daughter's best friend etc etc.

Most of those people know zilch about MG and even if they mean well, I admit that it can sometimes be quite annoying. Even though every now and then they do have good suggestions and sometimes even excellent ones.

I have learned to thank them politely for their interest, promise to look into what they suggest and even discuss it with my neurologist. And when they ask me why I see him and not someone "famous", I answer that he is the best and no one knows or understands MG as much as he does.

Or sometimes I say-I have a very rare type of MG, so it is probably different from what your cousin's daughter's best friend has. And if they insist I draw them a picture of the NMJ, and start explaining...That usually ends the conversation.

And no, I do not think that "positive thinking", "optimism" or "truly wanting to recover" (or as you say: "where there is a will there is a way") make a difference in your chance for recovery. I think those can help you adjust to your illness and have a better quality of life.

I also think that people who constantly tell you such things make it harder for you to adjust to your illness and have a negative impact on your quality of life.
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You may want to look at this:

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20146038

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worl...ys-author.html

http://www.humansideofcancer.com/chapters.htm
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Alice,
Do most people get better? I was under the impression that I can pretty much count on being stuck in a hole for the rest of my life. Better would be good.
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Do most people get better? I was under the impression that I can pretty much count on being stuck in a hole for the rest of my life. Better would be good.
Yes. Most people do get better and some even very much better
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"where there is a will there is a way".
If ever a Mr´Doo Dah´s wonderful recovery has such a lot to do with his will power -
Then how on earth did Mr´Doo Dah´ever manage to´will´ himself into a disease in the first place?!!!!



People are well meaning but they sure can make you cross sometimes...
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Raven, I completely understand what you mean. There are many variables as to whether or not someone with MG improves. Some people like Jana and me cannot do more than Mestinon and have to "thrive" by giving up nearly everything we want to do and whittle our lives down to "some" of what we need to do.

Heck, we look "okay" so we must be okay. Even my good neurologist is guilty of that, up until I ask him to do a clinical exam. How many doctors come to the erroneous conclusion that their MG patients are okay simply by looking at them in a static situation after they've been sitting, resting their muscles?

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Yes. Most people do get better and some even very much better.
Alice, I have to respectfully disagree. That is, unless you're being sarcastic, which is hard to tell this time.

First, there are no concrete studies of MG patients that show that most of them get better. I don't think people like Erin would say they are better (or are you, Erin? ). Second, MG is a relatively progressive disease and there are long-term effects on the body due to that. Third, remission is most often drug-induced remission and not drug-free remission. Lastly, quality of life is not truly looked at in MG - until recently - and it often comes at the cost of side effects of drugs.

And then there are people who do get better - on drugs - only to be struck with cancer from those immunosuppressants.

I think hope is great but false hope is so damaging.

I'm not painting a gloomy picture, only a realistic one. Yes, positive thinking helps but it honestly doesn't change whether my arms will get weak typing this or my legs will get weak taking out the garbage.

After 54 years of having MG, I can honestly say that my quality of life is greatly diminished. I could do things when I was younger that I can't do now. Is that from the effect of aging on the immune system? My B12 deficiency back in 1997-99 making things worse (B12 is needed to make acetylcholine). Who knows. But I'm actually grateful that I didn't know I had MG until I was 41 because doctors might've thrown drugs at me that might've made my life worse or shorter. I'm glad I simply "adjusted" my physical self as much as I could. My MG was mild; now it's not.

There's no easy answer to this topic because there are NOT sufficient studies out there. And, at the end of the day, it only matters what each individual with MG thinks about their life and not how they compare their "better" to someone else's "better."

And if they did studies on how "we" are, would they include all of those undiagnosed MG patients?

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Alice, I have to respectfully disagree.
You are right that most studies on MG are done by neurologists, whose ability to evaluate improvement is limited and also have their "wishful thinking" about their patients.

But still the overall impression I got from the medical literature and from patients I talked with is that most do have improvement in their illness with time.

I agree that this may be overestimated. And it is clearly not the "everyone can lead a normal life with minimal medications" notion prevalent in the medical community.

Regardless there are definitely patients who do not have improvement and some who have significant worsening in their condition. (although my neurologist thinks that even such patients may have significant improvement at a later stage, since it is such a crazy and unpredictable disease, but that's his "wishful thinking" not mine).


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I think hope is great but false hope is so damaging.
As you know, I fully agree with that. But, I do think that patients in the early stages of their illness can have realistic hope for improvement if not recovery.


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And if they did studies on how "we" are, would they include all of those undiagnosed MG patients?
As you know I am very concerned about the management of those patients and do my best to help them. I believe they have a different type of MG and therefore their illness is hard to diagnose and less likely to respond to the commonly used treatments. They do not have antibodies and they have a normal EMG and less typical clinical course because they have a different underlying mechanism of their disease and therefore their prognosis is probably also different. But, that's a different topic...
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If ever a Mr´Doo Dah´s wonderful recovery has such a lot to do with his will power -
Then how on earth did Mr´Doo Dah´ever manage to´will´ himself into a disease in the first place?!!!!



People are well meaning but they sure can make you cross sometimes...
That's easy,

He just didn't pay attention for a little while.

So, didn't exercise his will power.

But, now he is back in frame and ready to fight.
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That's easy,

He just didn't pay attention for a little while.

So, didn't exercise his will power.

But, now he is back in frame and ready to fight.
And since everything comes SO easily to him,

With just a little sense of humor -

He could even have turned this:

Into this:.............

Or maybe even this:


If he really put his mind to it!!!!!
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