[tutan]

Hello, I am new to NeuroTalk. I need some support from others who may know and understand what I am going through. I'm concerned for my own mental health. Two years ago my father had a massive heart attack while driving. He was put on life support and eventually died 36 days later.

The whole experience was traumatic and difficult to say the least. I know my mother has suffered the most (my parents had a great marriage). I have taken on the role of helping my mom with her grief, her households needs, and spending time with her.

The difficulty is that she is extremely angry and all too often I'm on the receiving end of it. She wants me with her at all times. I have a family and household of my own to run. Whether she lashes out at me, my siblings, my children, or the waiter, I feel her anger. She strongly feels that she is no longer angry and becomes defensive if that is brought up. She uses guilt against me. Especially when I set up boundaries. This stresses me out to no end.

I am beginning to feel resentment and anger and impatience toward her. I don't like these feelings. After spending most of my days with her, especially yesterday (10:30 am to 9:00pm) I told her today I don't want to go anywhere I want to stay home, she again became very angry. Of course, I feel guilty and stressed out. How do I enjoy my time for myself and family now?

[Rrae]

....and Welcome to NT

This is a great place to be for support and understanding.
I'm so sorry about your loss . As if that isn't hard enough, now you are left trying to pick up the pieces and looking out for your mom. She is completely broken I'm sure.

It's good that you are reaching out like this. Not many people would be able to hold up under the kind of stress and pressure you are faced with.
Try peeking in at the 'Caregiver's' Forum...here is the shortcut link:
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/fo...aysprune=&f=56

There are many other forums here that would be of great help also. There are caring people around every corner.

It's great that you are here, Tutan.
Even if you just need to vent, we're always here.

Caring,
Rae