Hi everyone,
I'm new to the site and learned the ins and outs of it. I finally came accross an intro thread. My life came to a hault 9 months ago when I was 9 months pregnant with our first born son and got the call my husband had been in a dirt bike accident. The first few months were beyond stressful dealing with a newborn and my husband with a TBI. Everyone comments on my strength and always says " I dont know how you did/do it." I feel so isolated because I know no one knows what I am going through. I don't wish this upon anyone of course, but feeling alone and isolated is a hard feeling, especailly with you don't have your husband there for you. I am beyond grateful that he survived and is here today by my side and our son has a dad. It is still heartwrenching for me though because he is a completely different person. He gets frustrated and just seems unhappy but won't talk to me or anyone else. I don't know how to talk to him. No matter what I say it's wrong so I try to just keep things light and fun for us and the baby. It's definitely wearing on me. So I came on here to try to find some support. Well baby is up from his nap...Thanks for listening.

Hi hon. Welcome!!

Sorry you are going through all this heartache. Not easy, I can well imagine. I see you are posting on other threads. That's good. This will take some time.

Now tell me all about your baby. I would love to hear about him.

Melody

Well my heart goes out to you. I went through something I look back now and ask my self how I did it. In April of 2005 I was due for my 5th son, and my mom got put into the hospital. I went into labor early at a different hospital, told the nurses my mom was real sick so the day after he was born less than 24 hours old they released me and my son to be able to go see my mom. I made it to the hospital and an hour later she died, but at least I was by her side.Then after going through that a few weeks later, my husband got attacked on his was home and got stabbed in his eye and had to go under emergency surgery when they had to remove his eye. I lost my faith in GOD just so angry but stay strong and keep your faith in GOD you will look back and be amazed at how you got through what you did. Also my friends sons father who at the time was her boyfriend, had a brain injury due to lack of oxygen to his brain during a heart attack at the age of 32. He now lives in assisted living pairalysed from the waist down due to that along with memory loss. He remembers nothing about his life and my bf of 16 yrs turned her back on him after he did everything for her. So stay strong, bye the way she is no longer my bf she turned bad met a guy and started doing drugs, karma got her.

HI Melody,

Oh that's something I can talk about with a smile for sure! He just turned 8 months on Friday and is a love! He is such a happy baby! His name is Ryder. He loves his toys and trying to talk. He is such a joy and definitely helps me get through all of this.

Samp
oh my gosh! That is a lot. Wow I don't even know what to say. I am glad you are such a strong woman to get through all that. It seems like the strong one are the ones delt these cards. Looking back at the more difficult times I don't know how I got through it, but at the same time I do know - I had no other option, I had to. That is horrible about your old bf! No matter what I wouldn't leave my husband. I am hopeful his progress continues though bc I sure do miss him.

Don't give up StacyRose. It is a long slow recovery with TBI. But the fact that he got medical care right off the bat is good. He is doing well to be functioning as much as he does. Just give him love and support. You will see. He will come back to you in time. Try to talk him in to getting help. It is hard to accept that you now have a life changing injury and are different now. Your brain tells you no I am ok. Then after a while when you keep having the same problems over and over you realize that you have problems. This is a very bad day. But is the first step in to recovery. You are a good wife. I am pulling for you both. Congratulations on your new baby. That should help. I know you miss your husband. He also is missing himself. Looks like Mark has offered help from his wife. That would be good for you.

Brain

Stacyrose,

It is great to have you come and be with us. You will fine a great number of dear friends to listen when you are in need of ears. Please, just let us know how we can help you out. You will find out we are supportive and relaxing place.

Sad to hear of what you are going though with your hubby condition. He is very lucky to have a mate like yourself. Congratulations on the opportunity to have a bundle of joy there. Give him a great BIG .

Please keep us up to date on your situation. Again welcome, looking forward to seeing you around. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Brian
Thank you for the kind words, they help. I pray one day he will see he needs help. I will be so grateful for when that day comes. I do try now and then to sugget help but it typically does not go well, at all! I hope he misses himself. I guess "they" say denial is the first step in acceptance. So I will keep telling myself he is still early in recovery and hope one day he sees he is not the person he once was and will want to work on it.
How are you doing? It sure does help coming on here.