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Old 06-16-2018, 09:14 AM #1
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Default What are the odds?!

I am in my late 50's, single, and have myasthenia gravis. Divorced in 2013.

Dating has been a real adventure.
I'll meet someone new, begin to like them and know that eventually, we're going to have "the talk." This is where I tell them that I have MG and how it affects my life and how it may affect them. I keep it light, but honest.

After I say my piece, I ask that they not comment or decide anything at that moment but, instead, take a day or two and consider what I've just said.

This is always difficult for me, especially if I'm really into someone because you just don't know what the response is going to be.

3 weeks ago, I met someone who is very nice and that I'm very attracted to. A few days ago, we had "the talk" and an amazing thing happened. She sat there looking stunned, blank expression, and then began to get upset. I said, "I'm sorry, it's not as bad as it all sounds." She turned to me and very slowly said, "I have MG too."

We sat in frozen silence for a moment and them embraced as the full depth of the conversation rolled over us. I'm sure many of you can relate to the mixed bag of emotions we were suddenly handed and the difficulty navigating through them.

In short, we're both kinda glad that we share this condition and it has brought us much closer. I don't know where it's all heading now, but just wanted to share this with anyone who might be facing a similar challenge.

There are people out there for us. True, the odds of meeting another person with MG are pretty slim, but it happened and it feels really good.

For what it's worth, I have taken the approach of getting to know someone first and giving the meeting a chance to grow a little before telling them. I find too many people just barge in with "Hi, I'm Joe and I have MG." From that point forward, you are "MG and your name is Joe." Give people a chance to know you and perhaps like you before telling them. Personally, I feel this gives them the chance to see you as a person, not a disease.

Just wanted to share a positive experience with all of you. Good things do happen!
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