I agree 100% Donna, it's not fair to him to just put him back into the lower functioning class just to make their lives easier, the thing is they didn't really explain to me that was what happened the last time when they put him in the lower class, they just DID it and told me they were separating him from another student that was influencing him to do bad things.

I don't know how much I trust them anymore after that, because it really wasn't right to hear from his teacher that this is what went on, that he'd been pushed back and it was because of his behavior. Well his behavior isn't any easier but it's not violent anymore. Thankfully.

Hi Pam,

This is a great thread. I read it from the beginning. I am glad that your feelings of guilt have lessened and that you've found some balance in your view of your role as mother. It doesn't matter what our limitations are mothers will always struggle with ourselves and what we did or didn't give our kids. Its this conflict, I believe that keeps us focused and striving to meet the varied needs of our children as best we can.

We have a few things in common. I have MS and was in a wheelchair for a while, and raising a 10 year old boy with autism spectrum disorder. I can relate to your struggle with intereacting with your son both physically and in terms of communication.

I just wanted to chime and let you know you are not alone with your difficulties. Keep plugging away, your deturmination will be empowering to your son, and keep you going.