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Ksman 08-27-2013 09:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Mari (Post 1010456)


Do not argue with him. It is not useful. He is sick. If he had a broken leg you would not wonder why he had a hard time climbing up the stairs.
With the patience and care of you and your wife and his doctors, he will get much better.

M

Thank you. We don't argue with him. We usually change the subject and he switches quickly and moves on to other things.

I was very suprised he actually took his meds last night at bedtime. He normally rejects taking any medications.

Mari 08-27-2013 02:31 PM

Hi,
Taking the meds is a good sign.

Mari

anneo59 08-30-2013 06:53 AM

Ksman and your son
 
We have some of these MI issues in our family, and our son is no exception. It's extremely challenging I know. Sometimes, answers are not easy and readily available. Just wishing you all the best and glad you are reaching out. Take care!:)




:hug:
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Originally Posted by Ksman (Post 1007630)
Thank you. That was an eye opener. Sorry for the confusion on BPD vs BP

From the list they provided in the article (- Fast speech, non-stop talking
- Fixation on self-harm or suicide- Substance misuse- Fidgeting, playing with hair or skin- Complaining constantly- Being irritable or aggressive)

He does show several of those characteristics. Substance misuse, complaining constantly, being irritable. He is NOT suicidal or physically aggressive.

But as an example. He helped install a part on our car last night. As he was working on it I complimented him about how well he was doing with the car and how quickly he was getting the job done. He just grumbled and told me I was in the way and to leave him alone.

About 20 minutes later he was sitting on the couch and asked loudly...'So, is anyone going to THANK ME for fixing the car?"

I pointed out that I had complimented him and tried to thank him while he was working on the car. He then went on and on about nobody ever appreciating what he does and how he is smarter and better than any of us. That lasted for about 30 minutes non-stop.

It's very tiring.


Ksman 09-08-2013 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Mari (Post 1010604)
Hi,
Taking the meds is a good sign.

Mari

Update. Our son is still taking his meds. But he is really pushing boundaries. He has a negative attitude. Often tells us we are lazy if we don't want to do what he wants and when he wants to do something. He uses language that Ed don't approve of and w let him know it. He criticizes everything we do. One sent like how we cook, what we cook, how we drive, what we watch on tv, or even how we shop.

He usually sleeps until about noon then says he doesn't get any sleep.

Strange thing the other day my wife and I went to the grocery store around 1130. He called me at 1215 asking where we were and drove quickly to he store. He doesn't like y to be together without him

Finally after being rude and criticizing my wife (his mother) and making her cry this morning he refused to apologize. Said he is right, we are lazy and he hasn't done anything wrong.

Mari 09-08-2013 01:11 PM

better doctors and more frequent trips to the doctors
 
Hi,

Please give him a chance to get his medicines straightened out.
The Seroquel / Quetiapine might be helping him but the other ones seem not to be helping. And you do not know yet if the Seroquel / Quetiapine is at the right dose.

Does he still have agitation, mood swings, headaches, pains, and paranoia?

When you refer to him as pushing boundaries, I feel that you have no idea what he is going through.
Bipolar people do not push boundaries like a healthy 15 year old does. Your son is very sick. It is hard for a parent (or anyone) to grasp the full degree of the the bipolar illness and brain injuries.

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He usually sleeps until about noon then says he doesn't get any sleep.
That is correct. We do not get the right kind of deep sleep that normal people get. The medications interfere with the stages of sleep that are necessary to wake up feeling rested.

I am sorry that your son hurt your wife.
Try to avoid those kinds of talks with him for a while.

The reason he seems that he has a negative attitude is because he is very very sick. He needs better treatment than he is getting right now.

When the medicine is straightened out, he will feel better and act nicer.

Mari

Ksman 09-08-2013 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Mari (Post 1013155)
Hi,

Please give him a chance to get his medicines straightened out.
The Seroquel / Quetiapine might be helping him but the other ones seem not to be helping. And you do not know yet if the Seroquel / Quetiapine is at the right dose.

Does he still have agitation, mood swings, headaches, pains, and paranoia?

The reason he seems that he has a negative attitude is because he is very very sick. He needs better treatment than he is getting right now.

When the medicine is straightened out, he will feel better and act nicer.

Mari

Quetiapine is the only thing he is taking. Yes he has mood swings still but the swings aren't as quick or frequent. The paranoia has decreased. Other Han he incident when we went to the grocery store without him. We were gone when he awoke. He looked around the house for us then called insisting to know where we were. Then a few minutes later he called to say our dog was missing and he saw her 2 miles from our house. He told me to come immediately to help find be dog. I drove straight to the house and the dog was inside as usual.

Mari 09-08-2013 04:04 PM

Hi,
That is weird about the dog.
He seems out of touch with reality. The Quetiapine is supposed to help with that. Maybe his anxiety caused that episode.
It is good to hear that his mood swings are less severe and less frequent.

M

Ksman 09-14-2013 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Mari (Post 1013182)
Hi,
That is weird about the dog.
He seems out of touch with reality. The Quetiapine is supposed to help with that. Maybe his anxiety caused that episode.
It is good to hear that his mood swings are less severe and less frequent.

M

Ok question here. Is this part of bipolar ? He is usually irritable when he first gets up in the morning. Today he was eating breakfast. My wife and I were in he kitchen talking about cleaning and chores for the day. Then our son tells us to stop yelling and arguing. But we were just talking. No yelling, no arguing, no disagreement of any kind. Just making a lit together of what we wanted to accomplish today.

He does this from time to time. He tells people to step yelling. When people are just talking normally or visiting. He seems very sensitive to noise.

Mari 09-14-2013 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Ksman (Post 1014641)
Ok question here. Is this part of bipolar ? He is usually irritable when he first gets up in the morning. Today he was eating breakfast. My wife and I were in he kitchen talking about cleaning and chores for the day. Then our son tells us to stop yelling and arguing. But we were just talking. No yelling, no arguing, no disagreement of any kind. Just making a lit together of what we wanted to accomplish today.

He does this from time to time. He tells people to step yelling. When people are just talking normally or visiting. He seems very sensitive to noise.

I have a low tolerance for noise. (I hate hearing bird sounds outside.)
I also take hours to wake up in the morning. My meds make me hungover / give me brain fog.
I do not know what happens with Seroquel.
It could be a bipolar thing or a medications thing or a combination of both.

Lately I have been easily irritated. And I am aware that I am irritating to others who are around me when I am jumpy and annoying.

Ask him if he wants to try some ear plugs or some noise canceling headphones.

Ksman 05-06-2014 10:09 PM

It's been about 10 months now. Thought I would give an update. Our son had gotten much better. He takes his medication. Just recently within the past couple of weeks he has started becoming negative and yelling at m a lot telling me I'm stupid or an idiot.

Still overall he is doing better. Just wearing on us after 10 months if this. Would like to have more hope that he could live on his own since he is 26.


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