Continue to be patient.
In my twenties I held low paying jobs so my father sent me money every month for rent. I completed graduate school. I am better now 25 years later. I am married and like my job but get stressed easily.

Let the psychiatrist know about the yelling.
Therapy can help at this stage if he is not already in therapy.

There are different kinds of therapy:

~Experiential therapy -- supportive -- patient feels understood, . .
~Cognitive therapy -- helps with learning constructive behaviors, might ask the patience to make a mood chart to track moods and such in order to find patterns that can be chaged.
~Mindfulness-based cognitive therapy --
~Online therapy --
~

If he will not go, go for yourself to help learn coping techniques.

Also he needs this

1. Lots of sleep
2. Daily exercise
3. Clean diet (low sugars and carbs, lots of fruits and veggies.

Have you asked his psychiatrist about blood work (esp thyroid) and possible tests for vitamin or mineral deficiencies?

http://psychcentral.com/lib/vitamins...isorder/000889

http://psychcentral.com/lib/minerals...isorder/000888

M

Actually since he is over 18, I cannot speak to his psychiatrist. He will not allow a case manager to visit the house either. (That was from the beginning when he was extremely paranoid)

He is getting blood work done this week. The psychiatrist meets with him every three months and today asked him to set up an appointment for lab work since he is on seroquel.

:grouphug:Yes, a rock of a hard place. Not being able to talk to the person
that is trying to help him.

I had that problem, but then when my son informed me the
psychiatrist wasn't listening, and just kept prescribing something
that wasn't working.

I told him that I was more than willing to go sit quietly while he tried
to tell the doc what he thought. And I would only interrupt and say
something, with his permission.

But what I was going to say, was point blank my son is trying to tell
you something. When are you going to start listening to him. If not
he will find someone who will. And I had it approved ahead of time.

But then I got really mad, and said it a little differently. Got quite
a look from my son. But the doc asked him to repeat what he had said.

And listened, then even thanked him for bringing his mom to make
her listen.

Donna :hug:

Thank you for the reply Donna. I don't know if this is a sign of being bipolar but he has become very irritable towards me and competitive. He often times wants to put me down, try to tell me that I'm dump, stupid or don't know anything. Wants to compete with me physically. Just strange behavior for him.

His medication has really made him put on weight. He is probably about 220 lbs now and he is 6'1" tall and I'm 5'10" tall and 190 lbs. He is 26 years old and I'm 49.

Having him constantly degrading me and putting me down has been a great strain on me and my nerves are wearing thin.