Well we have reached a point where I am at a loss as to what to do about my kid. He has been staying at his grandmother's pretty much the whole summer and has been taking a summer class, algebra which is just killin' him, from there. Only three hours a day. Starting at the ridiculous time of 7:30 in the a.m. When are the schools going to catch up with the studies of the teenage brain?! Anyway, because he failed it he needs to make it up. He has a girlfriend who is a year older than him, she is very sweet and has been very good for him, she helps him with his work, keeps on him about his meds, helps him stay on track. Unfortunately for her she has a mother who can't decide whether she wants to be a mother or to be on her own. She drinks and takes pills and smokes pot. She doesn't do this around the kids , she tries to hide it but at their age, well she is not too good at it. She kicks her daughter out so she can have her drunken weekends and so that her abusive occasional boyfriend can come over and beat her up. Besides all that it is sad to say she has been very good to my son, Brandon cares about her too so he has done some things that have not been to his benefit for her. Nothing illegal or anything like that, just stupid little things.

Ah the meat of the problem, grandma is a biatch, flat out, no bones about it. His dad is a crack addict and lives there also and lets his momma lead him around by the nose or else no where to live. Well my son finally came out during an altercation amongst the three of them and told his grandmother that his father is an addict and smokes in her garage and her other son's garage and some other juicy tidbits then left.

In the meantime son is not doing so well in class, doesn't really like teacher, again, doesn't do work to full potential, missing some classes. Still vomiting blood cause not following diet from GI specialist, seems to be in some kind of weird manic phase. Doesn't want to be at grandma's, she follows him around and nags, she is one who will not let go of something or give it time then talk about it. She is like a pit bull, tearing and chomping and....well........ anyway. His father follows him around trying to convince him that he does not smoke crack, me thinks he doth protest too much, waaay too much. Poor kid doesn't want to come home. Wants to be with girlfriend all the time. Calls me Monday night crying on phone wants me to pick him up Tuesday morning from girlfriend's house and take him to school. Well not happening, stay at grandma's, stop being unreasonable, all you have to do is follow rules, only 12 days of school left, come home if so miserable, lots of crying, now I am crying, now he is angry, not staying there, needs to get away, asking what am I gonna do if he does go to girlfriend's? Call the police? Will you calm down, stop being unreasonable, what is going on with you and repeat. Then just breathing and silence. Time to calm down. This is happening more often. As he gets older. He wants more freedom, wants to be grown yet can't handle what little responsibility he has now.

I have all these plans to fight for him just before school starts to set up a program for a personal curriculum for school but if he is not going to make the effort then I am not going to bother. I am trying to save him. I am struggling to keep my head above water and I have my arm around him to keep him from drowning.

Last night he calls me at almost 10:30 and says I want to come home. Where are you? I will walk to girlfriend's house. She is one block from his grandmother's. So I go to pick him up and he gets in car empty handed and he should have a duffel bag. Not going, is going to stay, said some things to grandmother that were very mean and needs to go back and apologize but is giving time to cool down. I am mad that he makes me go through this roller coaster with him. He did not go to school on Tuesday morning, stayed at girlfriend's, now I am furious, missed quiz at school, wants to know can he stay night at girlfriend's house, her mom and some other kids are staying.
Tell him no and he starts talking trying to explain to me how miserable he is, what happened at his grandma's, I am crying, so tired of this fight. Though I know it would be worse if he was home. Wants to stay, I can pick him up and take him to school because I have to get up and go right by there anyway. Defeated, don't care, never again. Tell him to call grandmother to tell her where he is at.

Get there this morning and he comes to the car no shoes on and I know he is not going. He has been vomiting again. His stomach is shot, not following diet. Screwing up meds. Nerves. School. I am angry. Tired. Give lecture. He made this mess he can fix it, call teacher and explain, beg forgiveness. Only 8 classes left. No more misses. Call grandmother. Then later I will call grandmother and explain to her about son's diet restrictions. I tell him I am calling her, no pop, no chocolate, no overly greasy foods, no spicy foods. He is mad, that is all my favorites, what am I going to eat. Healthy foods, I do eat healthy foods. What? I had some grapes yesterday. OOOOOh! Drink more water! I do drink water. In proportion to how much milk and pop? Oh.

He doesn't understand how serious this is. This is all going to come crashing down on him someday.

This girlfriend thing is really driving me nuts too. He can't stand to be away from her. God forbid if she has company, he has to know what she is doing at all times. I remember when I was that age and I was seeing his dad. It was the same way. I can remember being up North at a family get together and I was miserable, I wanted to be home, thought I was in love. Made my family miserable so they sent me home, caught a ride with my grandparents. Man was I awful lol. Poor mom.

I guess more therapy and some therapy with me and him. I told him last night that I am not going to go to all the effort this fall if he fails this class. If he can't make the effort for a lousy three hours in the morning for a couple of weeks then there is no point.

Stressed, scared, tired. I will be so glad when he is old enough to do things on his own. If that ever happens

AAaaaahhhh yes and the clincher, grandma on the answering machine, son banned for a long while. Call her back when I can.