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Twinkletoes 09-22-2008 09:29 PM

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Originally Posted by houghchrst (Post 368464)
Now I am a horrible mother because I feel a measure of relief at the break that I will get while he is gone.

Sounds to me like you need that break. You've earned it!

My circumstances were very different from yours, but I remember back when friends would ask about my absent teen, I'd just have to shrug. She'd call home about every 6 weeks or so.

I remember thinking, "Out of sight, out of mind." And it was true.

She made some really poor choices for several years, but (thankfully) finally found her way back home.

We are such good friends now. I enjoy her and her cute family so much. :)

I feel it was expressions of love that made the difference. Even when she was breaking my heart, I'd tell her I loved her.

My Mom used to like to quote to me, "This too will pass." She was right.

Just keep doing your best (like you've been doing) and believe that everything will work out eventually. Prayers definitely help. Sending some your way. :hug:

houghchrst 09-25-2008 05:11 PM

Boy was that kid mad at me. Since he has moved out he called me once for a ride for he and his girlfriend, then when she fractured her ankle last Saturday but he has not once called to chat or check in. This is a first. It hurts. I understand it, that he is growing into a young man, he wants to have his life.

I have been staying in contact with his teachers and his EMI staff. Except for one class he is doing pretty good.

Called his grandmother and asked that she remind him to check his email because I had forwarded some makeup work and extra credit work to him. She was snotty about it but said she would. About 10 minutes later the phone rings and he yells "why can't you just let me live my life" and hangs up. I was so stunned I burst out laughing. How teen typical.

I have been communicating to him through his MySpace lol. Today I finally got a response back.

He seems to be okay, I am okay. Today.

Thank you guys for putting up with me and my rambling. For the prayers and hugs.

Dmom3005 09-26-2008 07:39 PM

Christina

I think its what you both need. To correspond from a distance.

I also think you will start hearing from him more as time goes on.


So keep taking time for yourself, remind yourself he is a teen.

This is the way they act. And of all things Yippee, he is acting
normal for this.

Donna

Chreey 09-27-2008 01:04 PM

Sorry about what you have been going through. I hope things get better. Im sure its very hard to deal with. I know its hard for me to deal with a nine year without dealing with the puberty part and the wanting to have the independence part.

Bdix 10-05-2008 11:53 AM

Dear Christina:
Just thinking about you and hoping you are ok.
:hug:

houghchrst 10-11-2008 08:51 PM

Things with son are going okay. Right now I am dealing with a lot of death. He only really is aware of the one that is closest to him. I haven't told him of the many others. He worries about me far too much for that.

Thanks for asking. I am here. Barely.

Dmom3005 10-11-2008 09:06 PM

Christina

If you need us let us know. We are here to listen, and to talk to you.

There have been many death's in my area lately too.

Donna

houghchrst 10-11-2008 09:51 PM

Donna I am so sorry. It seems almost surreal to me. All this death at one time and the state of the world almost as though I am standing next to a wall and if I lean too much I will break through to this horrible dimension where everything is hell like, crap I am babbling and making no sense and now I have made myself cry again.

Dmom3005 10-11-2008 10:36 PM

Christina

You are making sense. It just doesn't make sense for so many at times,
that shouldn't lose a battle for life, be so young, or even in a case
of just being in the wrong place at the wrong time.


I still am haunted by the Bus wreck that killed the 4 special needs children.
I know that I will always blame myself some for the one boys death.

I also find it useless that the young are dying in car accidents, with no
real reason. Seems lately, everytime I turn around someone I know has
a relative or friend die.


I'm thinking of you. We can ramble together, me in a pity party. And you are welcome to cry if you need.

Donna

houghchrst 10-13-2008 09:05 AM

Thank you Donna.{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}


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