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10-04-2008, 03:15 PM
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Well yesterday was an ok day until he found out he couldn't stay at grandmas he threw a fit screaming and throwing things and proceded to kick my van door. Neighbors witnessed this and told me today he would have been going home with a black and blue butt. I just told them Anthony doesn't care about spankings been there tried that. He has high tolerence for pain. Thursday was a high day friday kinda even until 6pm today he is still kinda irritable back talking. I just don't know what disciplinem to do with him. Is there some special guidlines? Because the corner doesn't work and putting him in his room doesn't work it leads to a rage pretty much anything does. And when it comes down to a reward chart thats a joke. Just telling him how proud I am and stuff when he is good it seems like he purposely tries to be bad. Even when I tell docs hes been doing better he turns around and seems like purposley acts worse. I just don't know what to do about the psycotherapy part. And yesterday he seen councler and she agrees there has been no improvement that we need to see someone else who might have some other ideas and approach things in a different way. So he is going to see the psycologist instead of the social worker. Which I would have preffered all around. chreey
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10-04-2008, 04:28 PM
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Chreey
You are handling things perfectly, just by not giving in to him. THe neighbor has never had to handle a child or anyone else with a problem. And I hate to tell them, but if they had done the black and blue thing they would probably have gotten child protective called on them now days. I believe that you are handling things the best each time you can. And I think if he has done good, and it makes it worse then just say things have been okay. If not then say its been bad. Till he seems to want to be given the good words. Don't worry about what works for others. I believe you know your child. Donna |
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10-05-2008, 11:49 AM
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Something I did when my son was younger and acting exactly the way you describe (usually in the dead center of walmart or something) was to print up business cards.
"If you are reading this card you have expressed concern or opinion reguarding my son. My son has a condition called Early Onset Bipolar Disorder. Please refrain from offering advice and/or comments as they set back the behavior plan put in place by his medical staff. If you are interested in learning more about this disorder please visit bpkids.org. Thank you for your understanding." Sounds corny but it really works. I wouldnt even say a word. When some onlooker would say something like you describe I would simply hand them a card and continue on with what I was trying to do. they would usually roll their eyes and slink off, a few would appologise and smile at me, and I can only remember 3 times that anyone continued to offer comments after I gave it to them, and I have passed out HUNDREDS Something to keep in mind with the "beat his butt" comments is "You don't beat a seizure out of a child with epilipsy, and you don't beat the bipolar out of a cycling child." With age, proper medication, and more patience than most people will ever have to muster up, it does get better. You have to remember that proper medication is the only way he can improve. If he isn't medicated the right way the dots are not going to add up for him and he will not be able to feel empathy or remorse OR be able to learn to feel those things. But he will get there. I feel so bad for you. I remember feeling as helpless and dejected as you are right now. It was hell, and no one can understand the endless day and night war that goes on in your house. I also remember what it was like hating myself because sometimes it was hard to even feel love and compassion for my child who could not help how he was acting. It does get better. You just have to hang in long enough to find the right medications and doses. (Zyprexa was the only drug that ever worked for my son) |
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10-05-2008, 05:49 PM
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Thank you both for your words. Yesterday went ok. Today was different. He threw his shoe at his grandma and all she wanted to do was so grandpa that his knew shoes were already worn out that he needed knew. I gave the shoe back to him 4 times until he finally handed it to halfway nicely. Then Anthonys uncle and cousins came over and he never acts up around my uncle. Well my uncle got a little taste of what dealing with a bipolar child is like. Anthony was arguing with everyone and throwing basketballs at them. I had to make him go to his grandma she was trying to talk to him again and he was focused on arguing. Then he hit me and I pinned him down. Then I got a phone call had to get the baby who was next door at other grandparents. So I carried my 9 year old with me for a time out and he is fighting me kicking me finally I had to ask my uncle for help. He came in and talked to him and got him taking some deep breaths and calming down. Usuallythat wouldn't work but he wouldn't dare hit orkick my uncle. It took a lot of energy out of him. But when family members open there mouths its like ok go read the bipolar child the book will explain it all. So I may have to make up some of those cards
 they may come in handy. His one grandma told the councler she thought he was doing better. When he starts to cycle or rage I ask her if she calls this better? I just hope the medication starts to help or they find the right one. Before the time comes where he has to be hospitalized. I really wish they would do a partial but Im not sure if that would mess him up emotionally more than he already is and make him hate me. chreey
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10-10-2008, 09:55 AM
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Well they are supposed to be transferring his case to the psycologist. The counler told me to call her by wednesday if I hadn't heard anything. So I call and she tells me to call back and leave a message with the psycologist. So I do this and the next day the receptionist calls me back asking me if I wanted to set up apt with the councler if that is why I called and I told her no and what was going on and she said she would have to talk to the councler and have her get back with me. UGH
 Im getting the run around its driving me nuts. He is supposed to be going for therapy every week and its been a week already and no apt so who knows how long he will have to wait. Finally found a good psyciatrist but the therapists are terrible so far. chreey
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10-10-2008, 06:31 PM
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Chreey
I would put a call into the Psychiatrist on Monday. Let him/her know that the area were the counselor /psychologist is to be changing is giving you the run around. That it will soon be two weeks since he has been seen. And that you need to know what to do. Does he/she have a clue what to do. Donna ps. Your doing a great job for him. Just remember the squeaky wheel is answered. |
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10-12-2008, 02:52 PM
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Yeah Im going to have to do something. My husband is going with me for the first time thursday to see the psyciatrist. im going to have to mention to her that Anthony seems to start having problems around 5pm. Might have to give him his meds at 3pm and then again before bed. But I don't know how that would affect him all day until 3pm on weekends. Because she told me once before if he acted real sleepy at school we could do this. Im not sure going to have to talk to her. Do you know if they usually give abilify three times a day? chreey
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10-15-2008, 06:24 PM
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Well apt with psyciatrist went well today with my husband. My husband told doc he didn't believe the diagnosis. And she explained to him that if we needed to rearrange are lives and daily activies then that was normal for a child without a dx. We talked about are parenting skills a little bit and some things that needed changed and also anthonys abilify will be taken at 7am and 430 pm now instead of 7 and 7. She also thinks the hand tremors are hereditary from my husband. i never thought of that because I never noticed it before he started meds. well we will see how things go. chreey
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