if you suspect you are living with neglect or abuse of any kind, you need to follow your instincts. you are not imagining things. there is a reason you feel this way. get online and research, research, research. talk to a friend or a counselor.when i realized i was in an emotionally abusive marriage i found a counselor and the first words out of my mouth were "I need you to help me find enough strength to get out of my marriage." of course the counselor could not help me find the strength. yet at the time i spoke those words i had already taken the first step by identifying that indeed there was a problem and i knew i needed to get away from it. the problem would not get better. it would not get "fixed". i had to leave.

read these links... thoroughly. you will probably feel like denying it is happening. but read them and believe what they are saying. if the words strike your soul, ask yourself.. "is it worth losing who i am to stay with this person?" think... if they really cared, would they do what they are doing? whats more important? money or sanity? laughing or tip-toeing? being content or not even knowing who you are? barely surviving or living? having security or living in fear?

i lived the lie for 10 years. it took almost all i had emotionally, physically, financially and mentally to get out. but the empowerment began the minute i took the step. and i am healing. i laugh again. i no longer walk on eggshells, i am finding i am capable of doing alot more than i thought i was. 6 months before i left, my neuro wanted me to go into assisted living. now, a year after i left, i am in my own home without even a part time caregiver.

thank you cs for opening up this topic. i know it has been hard for you my friend. as a true survivor, your wisdom is hard earned and cradles you in dignity.


http://www.hurtbylove.com/index.html
http://www.womanabuseprevention.com/...ature_rev.html
http://www.normemma.com/advocacy/artfvioabu.htm
http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/a...onal_abuse.htm
http://samvak.tripod.com/abuse.html
http://sweetcardomom.wordpress.com/

I could not say any thing more than what was already posted to you. I do not have the ability, as what was said is so true. I was left when I first got sick with just an auto immune disorder. I am glad all these years later, that he did leave me. I have a few good friends, and for that I am eternally grateful. I am sorry not to know what PD is. I am new to the list and many of the dissabilities people have. Please add one more heart, mine, to those who are thinking of you on this list. ginnie