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08-12-2007, 07:04 AM | #21 | |||
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with much love, lou_lou . . by . , on Flickr pd documentary - part 2 and 3 . . Resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant with the weak and the wrong. Sometime in your life you will have been all of these. |
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08-12-2007, 11:07 AM | #22 | |||
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dear friends~
at 9:20 am today August 12th, 2007 my friend and sister (lil spud) broke free from the death of her body~and with her brilliant spirit and I am convinced without anydoubt that she is smiling at God now and for the rest of eternity will never suffer ( P.D.) ever again! with love ~ thank you all for praying
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with much love, lou_lou . . by . , on Flickr pd documentary - part 2 and 3 . . Resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant with the weak and the wrong. Sometime in your life you will have been all of these. |
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08-12-2007, 11:27 AM | #23 | ||
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Dear Tena...as I read the very sad news of your friend's passing, I could only think about your last words to her...that it was alright for her to "let go"...and how comforting that had to have been for her...AND how comforting it should be for you to have had the opportunity to say these words to her...something that you may well want to remember...as you grieve, now...and, too, as time passes. It has been said that those who are dying need to know that it is alright to "let go"...and that is exactly what you did with your gentle and kind parting words.
Blessings to you... Therese |
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08-12-2007, 12:41 PM | #24 | ||
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Does TxLady have a PO box #. I was thinking of sending a note with some cash to be spent as she pleases, or maybe she would like us to send flowers or whatever. I don't know. Tena, can you find out how TxLady would like all those who would like to pay respect to her daughter. Maybe she would like flowers, or in lieu of that something to start an education fund for her granddaughter, once again , i don't know, i just would like to help a little bit in this terrible time of her loss. cs
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08-12-2007, 12:54 PM | #25 | |||
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Myself as well Cs. Tena without being rude can you go to the funeral. Let us know what is needed if you can and want to.
There is such a gap now in my emotions that I haven't words to say about this. All of my feelings just erupt in the only thing i can think of .....WHY HER |
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08-12-2007, 02:35 PM | #26 | |||
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hello,
I spoke with Tx, and she will hopefully get a chance to go online, and let you know personally... I live about 8 hours from Tx. so since I am unable to be with her at this time, I will hope to visit her someday soon - however I do know if you wish you can email me and I will forward your emails to her - so that she will feel comforted, during the sadness that comes in waves, some call grieving... as for "why lil spud" -well - it was her time to go home. with love, clouiseparis@gmail.com
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with much love, lou_lou . . by . , on Flickr pd documentary - part 2 and 3 . . Resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant with the weak and the wrong. Sometime in your life you will have been all of these. |
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08-12-2007, 04:23 PM | #27 | ||
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Dear Friends,
I am by no means an expert on death, but a bit of background info may help where I'm coming from: - my best friend drowned in her own pool when we were 13 - she was a diabetic/epileptic - At the age of 15, my mom died from an aneurism - At the age of 18, two neighbor boys (best friends of my brother) died in a car crash - and at the age of 32, my husband and I buried a full-term baby girl ... who looked so very much like her siblings ... when she was 18 days old (major heart conditions) With that said, this is what I learned the most ... 1) There really isn't any magical words to say, other than I'm sorry ... my heart breaks for you ... let me know if I can help, etc. Mainly, though, they need someone to LISTEN. 2) The six-week mark, to me, was the hardest. At this point in time, people either think that you've gotten over it, should get over it, or ... worse ... think that if they bring the subject up, it will stir up the emotions and make you cry. Let me assure you that they're ALREADY crying and actually NEED someone to bring it up. 3) Please, please, please remember to use the person's name ... they need to hear that name more than you'll ever imagine. They WANT to say the name, tell a little story, explain how they're coping, etc., but feel awkward by being the first one to bring it up. Do them a favor and bring up the name, first, (i.e. How are you coping since Amanda died. I remember her smile would light up a room.) This allows THEM to freely bring it up, without feeling guilty that this is all they talk about. 4) Interjecting a little humor now ... another thing I learned was that I will never, ever bring lazagna to help with meals. You get more lazanga than you eat in a lifetime?! Why? Because it's a complete meal that feeds everyone, it easily freezes, and any leftovers make a great lunch or dinner. I call it the "dying food!" LOL If I have helped even one person by the above, I will have done my duty. God gave each of us certain gifts ... and I guess one of mine is helping people cope with grief! And, by the way, Lord, I'm ready for you to take me any time!!!!
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08-12-2007, 05:02 PM | #28 | |||
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Tena,I am so very sad for you right now.When the rawness starts to fade...when you can look back and smile without pain at the lovely memories you must surely have...perhaps you might wish to choose a pure white flower for our Garden of Peace,in memory of this special person.Something fragrant...something so beautiful it shines radiant and lasting.I would feel priveleged to plant it for you,in a place where it catches the warmth of the sun,and the whisper of a breeze.
Holding you close in prayer Love Steff x |
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08-12-2007, 07:32 PM | #29 | ||
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Tena, I actually logged on to delete this message, not believing that this is the time or place. But since you so graciously read it, and added a "thanks", I'm going to leave it. I do believe strongly about this topic, though, so I'm going to start another thread with this info. I just hope that I haven't offended anyone.
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Terri People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Quoted by: Maya Angelou (Reader's Digest Oct. 2006) Last edited by proudest_mama; 08-12-2007 at 09:25 PM. |
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